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Has anyone transferred from female to male while taking suppressives?

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I’m attempting a poll here. I don’t find many , if any stories talking about transfer even while medicated.

ive been dating a girl who was my close friend for 10 years. We’ve been together sexually for 3 and I found out she’s + for hsv2. Outside of the lie, which is an issue I’m also grappling with. I’m trying to figure out the likelyhood for exposure over time. I know the numbers, but looking for actual stories.

 

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9 hours ago, Hockeyawesome1 said:

Yes girl gave me GHSV1 while on suppressives 

Was this genital to genital? Or does she also have it orally? Almost all hsv1 transmissions come from oral sex, but genital does happen , just rarely.  

Wearing condoms and on anti-virals is pretty strong in terms of prevention.  

 

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3 hours ago, Scooby2112 said:

Was this genital to genital? Or does she also have it orally? Almost all hsv1 transmissions come from oral sex, but genital does happen , just rarely.  

Wearing condoms and on anti-virals is pretty strong in terms of prevention.  

 

I was wearing condom. I think my testicles probably touched her vagina and that's how I got it 

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I've had Herpes Simplex 2 for over 8 years now. The chances of a female giving it to male is less than a 2% chance yearly. Nobody should be having sex period if they have an outbreak and want to prevent their partner from getting it. If the woman can check and make sure she isn't having an outbreak before so and take her meds the chances are slim. She has to know he body.

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Thanks for the responses here. I realize the % is pretty low. I love her very much, so I think I'm willing to chance it. 

That being said - the % is similar to pregnancy while taking BC...I've been wrong side of that estimate 2 different times.

Any other stories of sucessfully discordant couples out there?

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I am HSV2+ for about 11 years, in a relationship for 7 years. We have been using condoms (no supp) for 5 years and nothing during 2 years and up to now he hasn't had any outbreaks yet (that doesn't mean he is negative, but I think so). 

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