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I have been living with Genital Herpes for over a year. I know when it’s about to come ruin my week by the tingles and itches and I know when to take my antivirals. 

I have been dating and sleeping with one man since October. He knows I have herpes and our sex life has been wonderful and ALWAYS safe. Condoms and occasionally I take my antivirals when I feel an outbreak coming. No sex during outbreaks.

Today he found a strange cut on his penis. It’s circualr. He questioned if it looked similar to mine but it’s hard to tell.  Only one. He felt zero symptoms. Nothing. No pain urinating or itching. Like I said, nothing. He’s getting tested soon but I wanted to come here for some quick advice!!

I’m looking for anyone who knows about a males first out break or any at all.. what are the symptoms? Compared to a female? Could I have given him this life changing STD? Please help soothe my mind. All opinions welcome.

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WilsoInAus

It sounds like this cut is well within the condom covered area? As such this is extremely unlikely to be related to an initial infection with HSV-2. Has he tested previously?

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Quest

Let it Go. Easier said than done. No pain? No anything? Let it go like your name says. 

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20 minutes ago, WilsoInAus said:

It sounds like this cut is well within the condom covered area? As such this is extremely unlikely to be related to an initial infection with HSV-2. Has he tested previously?

Yes it is not near his pubic area. It is exactly where a condom would fully cover. He has been tested before we started dating, all negative. The reason I raised such concern is online I do read men usually have no symptoms, where i had fever, burning, itching, etc. but I came here because I feel it’s far more trustworthy information because we are the people living with it. I appreciate your opinion on this. 

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5 minutes ago, Quest said:

Let it Go. Easier said than done. No pain? No anything? Let it go like your name says. 

Very true! But Just needed some advice! I wasn’t too sure if there’s any difference between a male vs females initial outbreaks, a lot of online sources say men have very little symptoms. I came here as I always do because I can always educate myself more from the people who are living with it. Thanks! 

 

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15 minutes ago, LetItGo said:

Yes it is not near his pubic area. It is exactly where a condom would fully cover. He has been tested before we started dating, all negative. The reason I raised such concern is online I do read men usually have no symptoms, where i had fever, burning, itching, etc. but I came here because I feel it’s far more trustworthy information because we are the people living with it. I appreciate your opinion on this. 

This reduces the chances significantly that it is related to herpes.

I think we men experience not dissimilar outbreaks in nature but no doubting the female anatomy is much more sensitive in which herpes lesions can wreak more havoc and heal slower. Without the lesions, the chance of other 'imperfections' indicating herpes is pretty low indeed.

Reality is that we get some assorted issues on the penis, pimples, fordyce spots, rashes from a day's experience in jocks, funny red bumps that come and go in hours etc.  

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Quest

There are so many areas in the forum and posts get lost fast. Look up the many things that can appear on the penis that is nothing to be concerned about and ease your mind. 

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2kroc

No, if you've been consistently using a condom then his penis couldnt have been exposed to herpes.

 

Also I recommend he guys use coconut oil or divine 9 lubricant as full body lube because they have anti viral properties in them.

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On 11/4/2018 at 11:09 PM, Divon said:

Actually those kinds of cuts are what I get.

He actually ended up testing positive for HSV 1. 

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1 minute ago, LetItGo said:

He actually ended up testing positive for HSV 1. 

As in he always had it from childhood?

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Just now, WilsoInAus said:

As in he always had it from childhood?

Actually no he had tested negative 3 months before we had got together. During those 3 months he received oral from 3 different girls. We think it came from one of them? I have been tested frequently w my doctor and blood work since and only positive for HSV 2 not 1. 

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WilsoInAus

I think it’s more likely his negative test either wasn’t IgG or a false negative.

A primary infection genitally with HSV-1 does not go unnoticed. Oh la la, unmistakable sores within days of infection.

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9 hours ago, WilsoInAus said:

I think it’s more likely his negative test either wasn’t IgG or a false negative.

A primary infection genitally with HSV-1 does not go unnoticed. Oh la la, unmistakable sores within days of infection.

How common are false negatives?! I feel like I see a lot of that 

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