Think about this when you’re down

[Lk2404]

Hey guys- usually reading these rant and rave posts always make me feel worse, so let me try to rant while being as positive as possible.

If you think about it, no matter whether we have oral or genital HSV1 or 2, there’s really no such thing as safe sex. If we have it or not, we use protection not to spread it, or pick up the other strand (along with any other STIS). So many of us on here got it using a condom, and so many without. Some of us got it from oral, or just plain touching without sex.  Some of us are asymptomatic, some of us have horrible outbreaks. Some of us from one night stands or with multiplie partners, some of us in monogomas relationships or with very few.  It can be right away, or it can be dormant. Some of us got it very young, and then some later on in life. 

What I’m saying is, no matter which way you look at it, there’s just absolutely no way to not be at risk to spreading or receiving HSV. Unless you completely abstain from oral, anal, vaginal sex, touching, kissing, or whatever, you are at risk to contract or to spread. I think it’s awful some of us were not given a choice, but I think the wisest way to think about this is if you do not have some form of HSV, you are always a candidate to receive it. So whether we have this or not, the risk is still there. There’s not really ever peace of mind.

In terms of moving on and hoping to find love, I’m still new to this. I think the best way is for you and a potential lover to get the igG tests together. Highly likely chance they have some form and will have to face that reality WITH you.