Is this even possible?

[Shocked at 58]

2 weeks ago, my boyfriend noticed a lesion on his foreskin. After a few days of trying ointments, something told him to go to Planned Parenthood. 3 days after he noticed the lesion, I felt like I must've bitten my tongue in my sleep. The next day, it had moved from the side of my tongue to the top, my gums were bleeding whenever I brushed, and I had a low grade fever. I went to the DDS thinking it must be something viral, given the fever and the bleeding gums. Little pimple inside one of the lesions. He wasn't sure, gave me some antibiotic mouthwash that he said probably wouldn't work, call my GP, and follow up in a week. When I came home after the appointment, by boyfriend told me his story about going to Planned Parenthood and how they cultured him and took blood, recognizing HSV. We drove to urgent care immediately so that I could get tested.

Urgent care felt it was canker sores, but took blood on my request (no swabs) and ran igg and igm. Boyfriend's results came back 3 days ago: he's tested positive for HSV-1 (on his genitals). My results just came back today: positive for HSV-2 in the past, negative for both for current (though it could have been too soon since it was only 2 days after symptoms began to appear. From what I've read, oral HSV-2 isn't impossible, but it's rare. I got my results by phone; I haven't seen them in print, so I don't know the values or methodology yet.

How could we both be asymptomatic all of our lives, and within 3 days of each other both have an outbreak UNRELATED to each other? I can't help but think that one of our tests is wrong. 

My boyfriend is not the man I see spending the rest of my life with (didn't before this escape either), so now I'm visualizing myself in the dating pool again, this time with HSV. If I have an oral version of HSV 2, will it always manifest in my mouth? Am I banished to condoms for the rest of my old lady life? How do I act as a responsible adult going forward?

Please help me.

[Dee22]

Hi 

welcome. I dont know wnough but i would get clear info first  . Apparently a huge amount of ppl have hsv1 so he could have always had it. .. i would have thought u have hsv1 orally. Do u mean u have tested for hav2 in the past ??? U need more info .....

[Scooby2112]

His was a swab so that is unlikely to be a false positive.  

Your blood test you need to confirm if you tested positive on Igg or igm.  Igm tests are crap I wouldn't trust it's results. If it was igm that was positive wait a couple months and retake Igg only.  To see you true status for both types.  

I assume you were negative for HSV1 on your blood work?

Remember blood tests can't tell you the location of infection.  The overwhelming stats would say a hsv2 Igg test result would mean it was a genital infection.  If you do have oral HSV2 your genitals would be unaffected.  The virus stays where it is transferred it doesn't move locations.  Hsv2 is also very unlikely to shed or be very symptomatic on the mouth.  

So condoms wouldn't be required for an oral infection.  

You would need a blood test another 3 months out to verify if you may have also contracted hsv1 from your partner.  

Generally when in a relationship if someone gets genital hsv1 the other individual has oral HSV1. That is the most likely way to transfer it to the genitals.  Although genital to genital does occur just less likely/frequently.