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I had sexual contact with my bf of a few months for the first time. We didnt have "real" sex, but I satisfied him manually and orally and sat on top of him with both our underwear on. The foreskin of his penis was red - he says he always had a condition were the foreskin is tight and it got worse since a while because he is pre-diabetic. He also says he was screened for everything, including herpes (PCR bloodtest), after his last contact (which was a long time ago). He didn't actually touch me, I didn't want to and kept my clothes on. I did touch myself a few hours after.

Three days after that contact I first developped a throat ache and symptoms that made me think of a bladder infection - painful and frequent urination. The doctor checked for bladder infection and that wasn't it. I also got something that looked like a very superficial blister on the vagina to me, but the doctor said it looked definitely not like herpes, but the area looked irritated. I'm still feeling unwell though, after 1.5 weeks. I'm tired, flu-like, with painful throat and painful/burning vaginal area and frequent urination. I also just discovered a tiny (1mm) blister in my mouth, on the tongue. But I haven't got any of the typical herpes ulceration.

- Is PCR testing in herpes valid?

- Does this sound like herpes or am I just being scared?

- Could I attract genital herpes without even getting my clothes of? :-/

I'm extremely scared because of the combination of throat and bladder issues starting directly after this sexual contact. I don't even dare kiss my son anymore. I'm all the time worried I'm infecting him or others.

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I had sexual contact with my bf of a few months for the first time. We didnt have "real" sex, but I satisfied him manually and orally and sat on top of him with both our underwear on. The foreskin of his penis was red - he says he always had a condition were the foreskin is tight and it got worse since a while because he is pre-diabetic. He also says he was screened for everything, including herpes (PCR bloodtest), after his last contact (which was a long time ago). He didn't actually touch me, I didn't want to and kept my clothes on. I did touch myself a few hours after.

Three days after that contact I first developped a throat ache and symptoms that made me think of a bladder infection - painful and frequent urination. The doctor checked for bladder infection and that wasn't it. I also got something that looked like a very superficial blister on the vagina to me, but the doctor said it looked definitely not like herpes, but the area looked irritated. I'm still feeling unwell though, after 1.5 weeks. I'm tired, flu-like, with painful throat and painful/burning vaginal area and frequent urination. I also just discovered a tiny (1mm) blister in my mouth, on the tongue. But I haven't got any of the typical herpes ulceration.

- Is PCR testing in herpes valid?

- Does this sound like herpes or am I just being scared?

- Could I attract genital herpes without even getting my clothes of? :-/

I'm extremely scared because of the combination of throat and bladder issues starting directly after this sexual contact. I don't even dare kiss my son anymore. I'm all the time worried I'm infecting him or others.

I hope you didn't contracted herpes.

Just for safety don't kiss your son.

First three months it is more contagious .

But remember 3.7 billion people had it.

In my case after 1 week of exposure  I had persistent sore throat which lasted for more than three weeks and flu like symptoms for 1 week.

 

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Uhoh. I developed little wounds on my lips now. I'm scared! I don't want this disease and there is a lot of fear and guilt involved in me. 

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Uhoh. I developed little wounds on my lips now. I'm scared! I don't want this disease and there is a lot of fear and guilt involved in me. 

Don't worry,get tested.

I hope it will be negative.

Just imagine you have chicken pox till the valid test results.

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Thanks Goku!

I'm really confused atm.

The tiny blisters on my lips were gone already in one day, which seems hopeful, but I still have the bladder infection symptoms. The doctor says I can't have herpes, because you'll know if you have a first outbreak, it'll explode. She says she can't test for herpes if there are no blisters, that I surely don't have that and there was no risk at all of other std's with the contact I had. I think she is wrong, but she won't have me tested. They don't do blood tests at all. She says the vaginal issues are from anxiety and stress around sexuality, not from an std.

I called an infoline, where they told me something completely different. They said you can have herpes with only minor symptoms or no symptoms at all. They also told me not to get tested, because many people (70%) have herpes in some form and it's no use knowing you have, and no use knowing you haven't got it because you could just as well catch it when your aunt kisses you goodbye on a birthday party. They told me it is possible I have herpes, but I shouldn't stress about it, since "everyone" has it. :-/ 

Weird advices!

 

 

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I'm having more and more recurring symptoms. Right now I'm having a mouth full of painful ulcers, INSIDE my mouth... on my gums, hard palate, cheeks, throat. And my throat still hurts. Before that I had tiny blisters on my lips and tingling. Before that a huge sore on the roof of my mouth. I'm having new weird symptoms constantly, when one leaves, the other comes up, and it is kind of depressing.

But I'm not having much of genital symptoms, fortunately. I had burning and painful urination and a bump or two. But they aren't really returning, save for a tiny red spot here or there which might be from shaving, and some mild tingling or burning now and then, which might be from overfocusing on discovering new symptoms. I can live with that.

I just sent in a swabtest of the oral and genital lesions. Praying it's nothing, but could this be anything else than herpes? Any ideas?

 

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On 8/3/2018 at 11:55 AM, Emmavb said:

I'm having more and more recurring symptoms. Right now I'm having a mouth full of painful ulcers, INSIDE my mouth... on my gums, hard palate, cheeks, throat. And my throat still hurts. Before that I had tiny blisters on my lips and tingling. Before that a huge sore on the roof of my mouth. I'm having new weird symptoms constantly, when one leaves, the other comes up, and it is kind of depressing.

Almost certainly that is not herpes. There are a number of diseases that can cause your symptoms, not all of them infectious. If you haven't done so already, go see a doctor as soon as you can.

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Update: my swab tests both came back negative.  They werent done right when the spots popped up though, so I'm not sure it's valid. I have no genital symptoms anymore, but very regular (every 2 weeks or so) mild oral symptoms. Little sores and blisters inside my mouth and on my lips since 5 months. I have genuinely no clue what it is, neither does my doctor, and they don't help me much there. Might still do a blood test through the internet to be sure, doctor refuses to do one.

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