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Hi everybody! I am new to this site. I'm just posting here for friends in the Rochester ny area. I am a 24 year old female. Idk I just figured it would be nice to connect with ppl and hang :) I like to draw, paint, picnic, go clubbing with friends, I just want to have fun :) . Also sharing our stories and experience  with herpes of course but also just enjoying life :) 

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123445

I’m from buffalo, NY also. I feel like we have similar interests msg me!

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PurpleandGray

I’m from the Buffalo area too if anyone is looking for a friend :) 

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