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brookeb300
Just now, valleynovascotia said:

I don't think a shower would stop the transmission. Is that what you mean?

Yes it has to sink in.  Herpes takes some time to develop a latent infection.  Has to sink into nerves takes some time.  After sex shower.  Guy who gave it to me had it pretty bad.  Like regular jock itch type symptoms.  Always dirty no actual sores.  I was fine for a year of sex if I took a shower right after he came tmi.

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valleynovascotia
1 minute ago, brookeb300 said:

Yes it has to sink in.  Herpes takes some time to develop a latent infection.  Has to sink into nerves takes some time.  After sex shower.  Guy who gave it to me had it pretty bad.  Like regular jock itch type symptoms.  Always dirty no actual sores.  I was fine for a year of sex if I took a shower right after he came tmi.

I didnt think it had too sink in i thought it was as soon as it was exposed too it.

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brookeb300
Just now, valleynovascotia said:

I didnt think it had too sink in i thought it was as soon as it was exposed too it.

No it had to sink in.  If u have sores and stuff it might be scarier.  If u just have a dirty feeling all of the time it takes time to sink in.  Even with sores.  I think.

I just got neem oil it seems kind of like maybe it might do something.

idk that was my experience. Guy didn’t disclose but I didn’t get it until he wanted to break up.

 

 

I took showers right after sex I thought he didn’t want to get me pregnant 

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valleynovascotia

it says in the article priteliver could be available in the next 2 years so I could possibly date again when im 35 perhaps.

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1 minute ago, brookeb300 said:

No it had to sink in.  If u have sores and stuff it might be scarier.  If u just have a dirty feeling all of the time it takes time to sink in.  Even with sores.  I think.

I just got neem oil it seems kind of like maybe it might do something.

idk that was my experience. Guy didn’t disclose but I didn’t get it until he wanted to break up.

 

 

I took showers right after sex I thought he didn’t want to get me pregnant 

I think my giver had a fair up when we had sex.

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brookeb300
Just now, valleynovascotia said:

it says in the article priteliver could be available in the next 2 years so I could possibly date again when im 35 perhaps.

Lol aww I’m sorry. I know I’m thinkOmg that too

Just now, valleynovascotia said:

I think my giver had a fair up when we had sex.

What do you mean?

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brookeb300

It’s a nightmare I can’t believe this happened to me

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valleynovascotia
8 minutes ago, brookeb300 said:

Lol aww I’m sorry. I know I’m thinkOmg that too

What do you mean?

It's ok,

I meant flair up

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1 minute ago, valleynovascotia said:

I meant flair up

Ok right. I know mine did too.  But did u take a shower or did u go home and pass out or something?  I bet you did t take a shower within minutes of finishing sex. It had to be really right afterward.

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1 minute ago, brookeb300 said:

Ok right. I know mine did too.  But did u take a shower or did u go home and pass out or something?  I bet you did t take a shower within minutes of finishing sex. It had to be really right afterward.

No i didnt shower right after I don't think this is true because we had sex for hours so the infection would have lots of time too sink in.

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brookeb300
1 minute ago, valleynovascotia said:

No i didnt shower right after I don't think this is true because we had sex for hours so the infection would have lots of time too sink in.

It takes awhile. I kick myself every day I didn’t take a shower when I got home that night.  

 

Just now, brookeb300 said:

It takes awhile. I kick myself every day I didn’t take a shower when I got home that night.  

 

I didn’t shower until the morning

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brookeb300

Then when I woke up I entered hell and I have been there ever since sorry people I hate this

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valleynovascotia
1 minute ago, brookeb300 said:

It takes awhile. I kick myself every day I didn’t take a shower when I got home that night.  

 

I didn’t shower until the morning

Damn I wish i showered so it's too bad i couldn't tell potential partners that if they showered they wouldn't catch it it seems they don't want too take the risk.

Just now, brookeb300 said:

Then when I woke up I entered hell and I have been there ever since sorry people I hate this

Have you tried positivesingles?

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brookeb300
1 minute ago, valleynovascotia said:

Damn I wish i showered so it's too bad i couldn't tell potential partners that if they showered they wouldn't catch it it seems they don't want too take the risk.

Have you tried positivesingles?

Yea I have it’s really great 

It’s awful I hate it it’s ok I’m alive and stuff just waiting for pritelivir and excision 

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brookeb300
4 minutes ago, brookeb300 said:

Yea I have it’s really great 

It’s awful I hate it it’s ok I’m alive and stuff just waiting for pritelivir and excision 

I know I’m sorry. Some awful guy with it got me to go along with the shower thing.  He also had a lot of cocaine.  

Maybe excision will work maybe crispr will work you know?

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valleynovascotia
2 minutes ago, brookeb300 said:

I know I’m sorry. Some awful guy with it got me to go along with the shower thing.  He also had a lot of cocaine.  

Maybe excision will work maybe crispr will work you know?

Yes and if not you''ll still date again and meet someone.

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brookeb300
Just now, valleynovascotia said:

Yes and if not you''ll still date again and meet someone.

Aww that’s really nice if you I doubt I will if something doesn’t work but you probably don’t want to either. But two heroes people together is a nightmare too

Herpes people not heroes oops Freudian skip 

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valleynovascotia
2 minutes ago, brookeb300 said:

I just don’t like being an awful person

Your not an awful person though. Herpes can happen too anyone.

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valleynovascotia
2 minutes ago, brookeb300 said:

Aww that’s really nice if you I doubt I will if something doesn’t work but you probably don’t want to either. But two heroes people together is a nightmare too

Herpes people not heroes oops Freudian skip 

Why is two herpes people a nightmare though? They would both be in the same boat.

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brookeb300
Just now, valleynovascotia said:

Your not an awful person though. Herpes can happen too anyone.

But I am an awful person now bc if I have sec I ruin someone’s life.   I’m just abstaining.  No more sex for me

Have sex

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brookeb300
Just now, valleynovascotia said:

Why is two herpes people a nightmare though? They would both be in the same boat.

You will just spreAd it all over each other

A nightmare herpes boat

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valleynovascotia
Just now, brookeb300 said:

But I am an awful person now bc if I have sec I ruin someone’s life.   I’m just abstaining.  No more sex for me

Have sex

If you disclose then it's their choice though.

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I’ll come in your boat though if u want

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