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Telling new partners you have herpes

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Broncogirl

just met new guy. Things were going well. It's hard when you're older. I'm 66. We both felt good about connection. I told him I have herpes. He called it off. How do I help him deal with it and reconsider? It's not a death sentence.

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Jane79

No it isnt a death sentence but not everyone is able to accept such things.You shouldn't try to convince him of anything. The person or people who are meant to be in your life won't need convincing. Keep a positive attitude, be honest with yourself and potential partners. You will meet someone that accepts you totally as much as you are willing to accept them totally. Dont lower your standards either for the sake of not being alone. Being alone in peace is better than having a partner in hell.

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Chicagonow

Bronco may I ask do u get more ob now. Get scared don't really feel itchy down their but itchy body just scared menopause is right around the corner

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kendall

I went on a second date tonight with a very cool guy I was interested in. I told him about me having herpes and he said he can't date someone with it.. I was bummed we proceded to dinner and I drove home crying all the way. I knew rejection was going to happen someday but I wasn't sure how I'd handle it. I'm glad I let it be known earlier on before catching feelings but I was hurt..

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Kiwanda

I'm very sorry to hear that Kendall. I haven't dated anyone since my diagnosis earlier this year. Honestly I'm not handling it very well. The prospect of dating again and then being rejected because of what I have is more than I can take right now. I admire your courage for putting yourself out there and being honest! I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

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kendall

Thank you Kiwanda. Although this was my first rejection in years because guys I have dated before has accepted me, I want you to not give up but when you get the courage to put yourself out there you'll be surprised at how many people don't have a problem with it. I just honestly didn't know how to take my first rejection but I feel better now, especially since joining this site tonight. 

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