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Hi. First of all, let me explain... I have been in a relationship with  my partner for 28 years. For the past three years, I have been living in Spain and working. - still contibuting to the house, and my youngest son is enjoying a free private education because of my benefits at school. In the past my partner has used sex as a weapon - meaning that he refuses me - for the last 15 years as a kind of punishment for me getting pregnant with our youngest who is nearly 17. He loves my kids to bits, but I went through major depression as a result of emotional blackmail and pressures at work. However, even though he doesn't admit it, he was having major anxiety and depression in his business. So, I get it, but only to a point. For my kids, I have stayed with him. 

Recently, I have connected with someone and have agreed a kind of sexual arrangement where we will meet once a week- He doesn't want a relationship as his wife has seriously just cheated on him. Even in the last three years that I have separated from my partner,  I still remained true. But, I have found things difficult. So, yesterday, We had our first hook up yesterday, and have planned to hook up  not seeing anyone else, unless arranged together.

However, this morning I started to see the signs of a cold sore. They were not visible before. Should I be worried?

 

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Oh, just to make you more aware... my parter hs had a serious stroke and has had a protection order put on him because he has no idea about how to complete a task of even go somewhere, legally, he has to have a chaperone with him at all times. He has been in hospital for 2 months

 

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Sorry to hear your story. I am living in Valencia and think I have just got oral herpes. Would appreciate support in trying to get a proper test done. The symptoms are ambiguous. One doctor says yes, another no, but neither have offered a test. 

Would be good to chat. 

Thanks

 

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No you should not be worried. Worst case scenario you have oral hsv which noone cares about. You seem to have way bigger problems to worry about to be honest. If ur husband asks just say that you have always had cold sores.

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