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Ok so....

i was very drunk last night and I started fooling around with a boy who doesn’t have the HSV2 virus... 

We “dry” humped and I mean he had a Condom on and my vaginal lips are quit large so my vagina wasn’t too exposed..  and then I remember him inserting his penis in, but only once and I said “no” so he stopped but then we continued to fool around..

i just want to know what are the chances of him contacting HSV2 if there was a condom on and I didn’t have any Out Breaks etc....

 

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Don't dry hump, silly goose! It is only a mistake if you refuse to correct your behavior. Don't beat yourself up! 

This worked for me when I was young. Figure out what rules you want for self. Repeat it as a mantra if you need to. I thought a man would not respect me if I had sex and he would think I was not good relationship material. I would not have sex for three months! That was my goal! I remembered this when I had alcohol in me and it was not easy. I also would not go to a man s territory! I stayed in public for the most part

You stopped I think you did good.  Calm down.  I hope @WilsoInAus jumps in. 

You can't change what happened! l vote not to tell him because that places a huge stressor on ppl who don't understand HSV

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5 hours ago, arorasmith said:

Ok so....

i was very drunk last night and I started fooling around with a boy who doesn’t have the HSV2 virus... 

We “dry” humped and I mean he had a Condom on and my vaginal lips are quit large so my vagina wasn’t too exposed..  and then I remember him inserting his penis in, but only once and I said “no” so he stopped but then we continued to fool around..

i just want to know what are the chances of him contacting HSV2 if there was a condom on and I didn’t have any Out Breaks etc....

 

Help me SOS

The condom affords high protection but not a guarantee. But the length of time he was in you also affects the outcome. Just going into you for a few seconds and with a condom means the chances of you having given him hsv are virtually ZERO. I wouldn't give it a second thought.

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3 hours ago, Cas9 said:

The condom affords high protection but not a guarantee. But the length of time he was in you also affects the outcome. Just going into you for a few seconds and with a condom means the chances of you having given him hsv are virtually ZERO. I wouldn't give it a second thought.

I just hate myself because I didn’t ever want to give it to someone else because i wasn’t given the choice of deciding 

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5 hours ago, Quest said:

Don't dry hump, silly goose! It is only a mistake if you refuse to correct your behavior. Don't beat yourself up! 

This worked for me when I was young. Figure out what rules you want for self. Repeat it as a mantra if you need to. I thought a man would not respect me if I had sex and he would think I was not good relationship material. I would not have sex for three months! That was my goal! I remembered this when I had alcohol in me and it was not easy. I also would not go to a man s territory! I stayed in public for the most part

You stopped I think you did good.  Calm down.  I hope @WilsoInAus jumps in. 

You can't change what happened! l vote not to tell him because that places a huge stressor on ppl who don't understand HSV

I haven’t had sex with anyone since my last long term partner.. I refuse to!! 

And I’m ok with not having sex.. it was I was just extremely intoxicated that it even went that far.. 

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4 hours ago, Quest said:

Did you talk yourself into not liking sex? Is that what you really want?

No.. I like sex I just don’t want to infect anyone else... the person who gave it to me didn’t give me the choice and i am Assamed I guess.. I’d rather be alone than have anyone go through what I go through... that’s why I feel so guilty about this boy 

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Guilt teaches us a lesson, but don't let it haunt or control you. May be time to see a therapist if you can't move through this. 

wish you luck. Please don't enslave yourself forever learn what your chances of transmission are. You can be safer than others for him. I really mean that. 

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2 hours ago, Quest said:

Guilt teaches us a lesson, but don't let it haunt or control you. May be time to see a therapist if you can't move through this. 

wish you luck. Please don't enslave yourself forever learn what your chances of transmission are. You can be safer than others for him. I really mean that. 

I guess I just don’t know how to deal with it.. maybe you’re right.. maybe I do need to talk to someone about it.. I never got tested.. the dr just looked at my first OB and then just said yep and prescribe me medication.. then my gynogoligst told me I can’t past it on if I don’t have an OB and I’m just confused I guess 

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1 hour ago, Quest said:

Here is what my gynecologist told me. I won't give you a positive diagnosis from pictures. labs tell the story, and labs can be wrong.

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You can spread the virus this way. This is basically the way I received this gift, and was super shocked when I had my first outbreak. It didn't make sense especially because I had always been pretty damn careful for most of my life and was wearing a condom.  Be careful, as most of us sufferers quality of life has never been the same. This sucks!!

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On 9/18/2018 at 9:56 PM, 35hope said:

wait so a condom won't protect you? i thought it was because other parts of your skin rubbed against each other that weren't completely covered by the condom...

It will protect to an extent but as always with condoms there is no guarantees. I learned the hard way.

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3 hours ago, dont quit!17 said:

It will protect to an extent but as always with condoms there is no guarantees. I learned the hard way.

But don’t you have an oral HSV-1 infection? Condoms don’t protect against that?

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