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Disclosed for first time.... did no go well :( ghsv1

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So I disclosed for the first time last week. I was feeling confident after reading all of the positive disclosure stories out there. I was armed with the stats and presented the information in a calm manner as recommended. I was happy to find out that the guy already had a lot of knowledge about it because had an ex w the same issue. It was nice to have sex without having to worry about harboring a secret, I felt normal for once :)  I got a text from him in the AM and I was hoping for the usual "had a great time, can't wait to see you again" but instead he was blithering on about being paranoid about the contact. We exchanged one more message that day, and today I sent one, no response..... pretty certain I've been ghosted.  I am back to that dark place where I feel like I'm unlovable / unfuckable dreg of society. I'm a single parent which doesn't help, nobody wants a relationship w someone like me... add the herpes and I might as well be a 400 lb amputee on welfare with an IQ of 70. I feel like I am going to have to eventually "settle" for someone that is willing to be with me, but I don't really like them. I feel that a man that is willing to accept this is probably an unwanted outcast himself.  So ultimately I fear I will have nobody, or settle for a guy that disgusts me

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He is not a good mate for you because you will go through tougher, much tougher subjects and he is the running type. My guess is that he is not clean himself. what I would give to see his paperwork.

ETA: He will come back to you and when he does, ghost him or tell him you won't go out with anyone who doesn't show their std paperwork to include HSV status. keep your chin up:swear:

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that is not good. I hope he can own up to his behaviour .... and just say im not ready for this at least. Sorry that happened. Its all of our fears and I understand how u feel about being stuck with hsv and the ongoing impact on our lives and relationships 

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