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Hello everyone!! this is all new to me and I am trying to have a better understanding with whats happening to me. I was recently told by my partner that he was diagnosed with Herps 2. My initial reaction was not about my feelings it was about how is he doing feeling, instead of going into a blame game or storming out I wanted to make sure he was ok before myself. Now shortly after our conversation I got tested and found that I was positive as well. The doctor was extremely helpful and explain what was happening in detail because I was on my way to a full BREAKDOWN, tears, shock, I wanted a blanket and to be held. Here I was at the doctors office alone and she said Yes you do have Herpes 2. Now here is whats to expect. I tested positive for being exposed because there is no real test to show that I have it until I have a OB. She explained as bad as it may sound this is common in the world we live in now. truthfully there was nothing that was registering to me as she was speaking because I was in a dazed state. Kinda like shock but times 200. I literally went from having a few questions common ones like whats the chances to having millions of questions ( well maybe not millions but a lot more than before she told me I was positive). I wanted to speak to someone who can tell me hey this is what you should do. or sit there and say well this is what experience I've had and this can help, to girl this is what you need to take cause the pain is bad. I was in a state of confusion. Nothing was helping me get out of a state of depression. Then my partner tells me hey stress is one of the things that triggers out breaks. Truthfully I wanted to punch him in the kneecap because hello thats all I've been doing, I did not want to put my millions of questions on him, that and my stress was adding on to his possibly giving him a higher chance of an outbreak and not to mention he felt guilty because I got this from him. Now why would I was to stress him more. Heck it was the blind leading the blind. I wanted to know what kind of pain I was going to be going through. is it like child birth cause come on why the pain and no real cure. modern medicine has grown since the 80s. Then because I was stressing Im having my first out break. It feels like I was hit by a truck, bus, and then going into labor with an elephant baby. Pain is an understatement. I feel like I have grown a balls down there cause its so swollen. My partner I can look at him and Im trying my best not to express the pain that I am in, because I see the guilt he is having. but Jesus help me!! this pain is bad. hiding it is becoming a challenge, its not everyday you give birth to an elephant either. But I can't hide it no more. I have sores internal where sitting is not comfortable nor is using the bathroom. Im just hoping there is relief in a day or so tops cause I am in extreme discomfort. plus confusion more like damnit I should have not stressed myself so much. like stress is apart of everyones daily life, how can I avoid it. The person that came up with that must have not had children, significant other, worked, had bills, heck lived in a house probably was a monk. Because once you find out its like my stress multiplied by thousands. I am sorry this is probably one of the weirdest confessions Ive had thus far. But I need something to help subside this. I am great at hiding my pain but this is too much. 

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Why should you hide your pain. I would guess understanding is way better if you both experience the same. Frustration is also in its place. 

It would be great if you could share.

This pain is going away and next OB will be nothing like this one.. Thats for sure. Hang in there, talk to eachother...Most people do not have someone to talk to... 

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