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NewlifeforVal

Ok so, I was diagnosed 5 months ago. I can’t even explain how depressed I was (and I am a happy person).

it gets better. I promise. And I would not have believed that if someone would have tried to tell me that when I was first diagnosed.

I had my second outbreak last month (which I caught right away and it went away in 2 days with acyclovir). It was nothing like the first one. The pain was at like a 1, compared to the first outbreak which I would say the pain was a 10.

i am having another outbreak now, and it’s the same. I’ve never seen any blisters, but I can see small flat lesions. I will say that I haven’t been eating well or taking vitamins, so I am not fully surprised by these 2 outbreaks. 

But my point is, they don’t hurt. I live a normal life. I am lucky that my partner (that unknowingly gave it to me) is still in the picture, (even though we went back to acting like it’s an elephant in the room because men can’t communicate) lol, but having him to go through it with is something I am grateful for because I know this can feel extremely  lonely.

And I will say surprisingly I have had the best sex of my life since I was diagnosed. Weird coincidence I guess :rolleyes:. Life is funny.

 

i honestly forget I have it. And these two outbreaks I’ve got (right at the end of my period) these last 2 months, have been so easy, acyclovir got rid of them quickly, and tea tree oil helps to dry them.

 

my best advice:

Take care of your body (what you put inside really matters).

Take care of your mind (talk to someone, even if it’s a stranger).

Take care of your soul (figure out what you need to make yourself happy again, or find your new happy). 

 

Please remember that it’s going to be ok because believe me, I know it does not feel like it.

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Quest

Having them days after your period is typical.

 Get plenty of sleep and get rid of any stress and stressful people!

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Hairpees

Glad to hear you’ve gotten better. I truly feel for people that get diagnosed so young and/ or not with a partner to help  them through it all. If you don’t have that you have to face it alone, and think about dating and disclosure. Worry about rejections and your reputation. Did a part of you stay with him because he had it as well? I don’t know how you forgave him, I cant look at the guy who gave me this disease the same way ever again. He will always be the person who ruined my life. If he were on life support I’d unplug his machine to charge my phone. 

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Dutchy

I feel the same about the person that gave this to me.  

But in agree about finding things to love in life. Disclosing in did twice. With succes. But after that Building a good relationship is still hard and needs work. 

I am more gratefull for the blessings in my life. But if the person that gave it to me is in front of my car i would Speed up and brake his legs...

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Broken Butterfly

I’m glad you and your partner were able to stay together. I was just diagnosed 2 weeks ago and have been trying to tell my boyfriend but he has decided to stop responding to me. I know I got it from him and I don’t know if he knows he has it. It’s been hell feeling so alone dealing with this. I wanted to see if we could stay together but my guess is he knows he has it and is afraid to talk to me- I told him I had upsetting news from the doctor I needed to share with him. I hope eventually I feel less sad and upset as time goes on but right now I’m a mess. 

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