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I met a girl just over a year ago (before I got HSV-2) and we had a real connection, though we didn't actually sleep together. We live far apart but saw each other again at a festival for the first time since we met last year. Things got romantic and of course I had to tell her the truth about my situation. It was a deal breaker for her. She was nice about it but things never went any further, and I really don't blame her. I am completely devastated. A year ago I was clean but in the meantime I met the wrong person, was lied to and contracted this stupid virus. Every time I think the worst of the depression is over it comes back worse than ever. It's not just this one girl, it's my life that has been turned upside down. Most people that have it don't even know it, so it's more than likely I'll be turned down by people that have it anyways, they just don't know it. I have to be honest though. I could never put another person through this misery. My life has been consumed by this. People around me can tell something is wrong but I can't talk about it. Every waking moment is defined by crushing depression. The only peace I get is when I sleep. How long does this have to last? How do you deal with this?

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I don't know if it'll help but what about going over the statistics with her you know having that page on your phone ready to whip out -if you are ready to whip it out spontaneously? It takes courage and confidence! Maybe be ready with something that you could also put on yourself. Something might coconut oil and then you would have to use a polyisopreen condom. And then maybe take something that will produce oxygen and kill it off like LipH you put five drops in a glass of water and it raises your oxygen temporarily. 

What about finding someone who's also positive? And maybe she had something that you don't want! I wish I had great answers for you I just don't and I'm so sorry this happened to you!

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Hi kiwanda,

long time no spk. Do u want to private msg? Sorry to hear this happened. U r such a lovely guy and try remember that. I really relate to how u feel and how this virus does greatly affect our dating life. But i strongly believe many ppl have it and the right person will be open to dating and ok with it. We all just may have to have some crappy disclosures before that. You did the right thing by telling her as that is how it passes on otherwise and ppl deserve the right to have that choice. Maybe some info re risks and how to be safe wld help women ??? 

I have met someone that i told and luckily he was accepting. I still have mnay of my own issues about it not related to him so it is just something we have to reconcile within ourselves   


Please feel free to pm me wld luv to chat 

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