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I'm freaking out, I must be such a horrible person. It was a little over a year since I've be in any kind of relationship or had sex. Recently, things got heated with a guy and I. For various reason I solely wanted a physical affair. But now I feel like I made yet another mistake. We did not have intercourse because we didnt have condoms. We did fool around and he gave me oral sex. I'm freaking out because I have HSV2. I'm scared with him giving my oral sex I've passed the virus on to him. We havent spoken since that night which is another reason why I'm so distraught over this. Any thoughts? Please, also, dont judge me. I have yet to come to terms with myself in telling ANYONE that I live with this virus. I dont know how I'll ever have a regular relationship or fall in love. I just need a little light shed, if any.. 

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Please don’t let your life get too complicated regarding HSV-2 if that’s not what you have. Where is your testing up to?

Even if you have HSV-2 there was very little risk of transmission. For next time, think about your values regarding disclosure and be guided by them without getting carried off in the moment.

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I am positive for genital herpes. I was diagnosed in 2016. I get OB or symptoms around my menstrual or even sometimes when I'm ovulating. I take Valtrex twice a day plus a multi vitamin, LLsyine which is know to suppress certain symptoms. I understand the importance of disclosures, like I mentioned I am still dealing with coming to terms and finding the courage to do so. 

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How exactly would having a combination of both help or make a difference in any way? When I was first tested, yes I had a combination of the both. Recently when I was tested I was positive for only the HSV 2

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I think you have said pretty clearly the results are positive to HSV2.  Like you and Wilsoln said telling ppl is always the best way to go.  At least the oral form is super prevalent and you didn't pass on the genital strain.  Try not to beat yourself up about it and maybe ask him if he's ever had a cold sore in the past then u know he had the oral form anyhow. 

 

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