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Hey, I've been seeing a guy for a couple weeks and he's so great. I always struggle with when to disclose about HSV2 but I went ahead and got it over with two nights ago.  He was really nice about it at the time and said no one had ever told him that before and he wasn't sure how to react but it didn't change me as a person. I reached out to him yesterday and he said he was stressed with work.  Not sure if I added to his stress. Haven't heard from him today.  Just curious if it's best to disclose and then give the person space?  Is it normal for someone to pull back? I don't want to hover but my stomach is killing me and i'm really anxious about it.  Any advice is appreciated. Thanks

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Sorry to say he has definitely pulled back to think. There is little to do but wait. He has to come to you if this has any chance of working well for the two of you.

Put a date in your head that marks a point where you’re moving on. I think another two weeks is plenty.

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Figured that might be the case. I guess I'll just wait and let him make a move. I don't want to be with someone who's scared to sleep with me or make me feel bad about myself b/c I've already done that long enough.    

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