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This just occurred to me, 90% of us could've avoided contracting herpes by just wearing clothes during sex. It's impossible transmit herpes if theres no skin to skin contact!  

Just unzip your pants and put on a condom. Yes, there are little exposed areas in the zipper openings but you could easily modify your clothing for this. Heck, put in a little bit of coconut oil or whatever in the crotch area and that should provide decent protection for those little areas. Yes, Certain clothes can be uncomfortable to bang in so I reccomend looking for loose fitting clothing like cotton sweatshirts and sweatpants (poke a hole in em).

If you have oral herpes then just dont kiss or rub necks.

you simply can't deny that If people commonly wore clothes during sex then herpes infection rates would be cut down by MORE THAN HALF. It's so simple yet you don't see any major businesses or companies developing on this simple concept. What a corrupt world we live in.

 

 

 

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1 hour ago, 35hope said:

rub necks?

sometimes people have  herpes in the neck/chin area due to deep make out sessions, so i suggest avoid contact anywhere above the neck area.

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ThePrinceofPoon

I have thought of this before but it doesn't always work. Many people get obs on their legs/thighs and not their genitals (like me) and even with underwear on covering the ob area it can still be passed on because of the tiny holes in the underwear.

Maybe if you wore thick jeans it could prevent risk of transmission but I don't see how that would be fun or sexy.

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16 minutes ago, ThePrinceofPoon said:

I have thought of this before but it doesn't always work. Many people get obs on their legs/thighs and not their genitals (like me) and even with underwear on covering the ob area it can still be passed on because of the tiny holes in the underwear.

Maybe if you wore thick jeans it could prevent risk of transmission but I don't see how that would be fun or sexy.

Of course, I'm not talking about just wearing a thong or whitey tidies.That would achieve nothing. Indeed, My herpes outbreaks are located in my legs/thighs which is what led me to this line of thought. I'm talking about full body clothing. You wouldn't even need thick jeans, Simple cotton jogging pants would do just fine. Their nice, non-friction, light, flexible and more than thick enough to prevent herpes virus transmission.  

Although the groin region is susceptible, however if the hole is small enough only for the penis to get through it should provide decent covering for the scrotum.

Yes, It should ALWAYS work. If you're talking about herpes then simple clothing should be just as effective as a hypothetical full-body condom. Assuming that clothing remains BETWEEN the two sexual partners bodies.

 

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Quest

I have brought up latex, I think it is very sexy! My boyfriend said no to boxers:perverted: what about the liquid gloves to protect the rest of the ground area? Amazing video if it is real!?!

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I assume the OP is a joke, but something like the scro-guard would have been useful for discordant couples and I don't understand why there isn't something like that for couple who have one negative and one positive partner. 

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Quest

I want more protection for my partner.  I think lovers will do anything for sweet heat!

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1 hour ago, ill47 said:

I assume the OP is a joke, but something like the scro-guard would have been useful for discordant couples and I don't understand why there isn't something like that for couple who have one negative and one positive partner. 

Nope, not a joke at all. If you adhere to  the effectiveness scroguard then why not full on pants? The only difference is that scro guard potentially protects against vaginal fluids, but that's not the topic here.

 I've had sex fully clothed before, it does not take away much from the experience due to the fact the penis and vaginal regions compose most of the physical sensations during sex.

I dont understand the scrutiny against this. Do you really need to be naked  to enjoy sex? Youd rather risk your partners health or not have sex at all then just fuck in a good pair of duds?

This is freedom, this is a solution. Yet weve been conditioned to be closeminded that we cant work our minds around such trivial matters as quarter inch of cloth ruining our libido?

Ay caramba

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Cas9
20 hours ago, 2kroc said:

This just occurred to me, 90% of us could've avoided contracting herpes by just wearing clothes during sex. It's impossible transmit herpes if theres no skin to skin contact!  

Just unzip your pants and put on a condom. Yes, there are little exposed areas in the zipper openings but you could easily modify your clothing for this. Heck, put in a little bit of coconut oil or whatever in the crotch area and that should provide decent protection for those little areas. Yes, Certain clothes can be uncomfortable to bang in so I reccomend looking for loose fitting clothing like cotton sweatshirts and sweatpants (poke a hole in em).

If you have oral herpes then just dont kiss or rub necks.

you simply can't deny that If people commonly wore clothes during sex then herpes infection rates would be cut down by MORE THAN HALF. It's so simple yet you don't see any major businesses or companies developing on this simple concept. What a corrupt world we live in.

 

 

 

No Sir, 90% of us would not have avoided hsv by wearing clothes during sex. Ridiculous.

The skin to skin contact that results in obtaining ghsv, occurs at the genitals

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Again, Clothes can indeed cover your genitals.  I've had clothes sex, my balls werent exposed  and at most the tiny space between the base of condom and balls was the only spot that couldve had any sort of exposure. And even if that's a problem, that just means that only 1% of your body is it at risk for herpes. 

 

You're mistaken, Ghsv can occur anywhere hence certain terms such as "oral ghsv". I have ghsv on my inner thighs and the girl that gave it to me probably had it on her ass. If I had been wearing jogger pants while I was hitting, my inner thigh WOULDN'T have been exposed. You cant dispute this

 

Clothed sex is safer sex

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58 minutes ago, 2kroc said:

Again, Clothes can indeed cover your genitals.  I've had clothes sex, my balls werent exposed  and at most the tiny space between the base of condom and balls was the only spot that couldve had any sort of exposure. And even if that's a problem, that just means that only 1% of your body is it at risk for herpes. 

 

You're mistaken, Ghsv can occur anywhere hence certain terms such as "oral ghsv". I have ghsv on my inner thighs and the girl that gave it to me probably had it on her ass. If I had been wearing jogger pants while I was hitting, my inner thigh WOULDN'T have been exposed. You cant dispute this

 

Clothed sex is safer sex

Sir, no clothes are going to protect an infected penis from making contact with the lips and inner area of the vagina. And no clothes are going to protect an infected vagina from making contact with a penis.

oral ghsv??? What are you talking about??? The only connection between oral and ghsv is from oral sex; e.g. a person with ohsv performs oral sex OR a person with ghsv has oral sex performed on them. Oral dams are used for protection in those situations, NOT CLOTHES!

Herpes can occur anywhere? No shit!  So what does that have to do with clothes and GHSV ?

Are we going to mention some outside case where the woman has hsv on her butt cheek and then rubs her butt cheek against a mans penis? Would clothes covering her butt have prevented that exposure? Sure. But that doesn't represent 90% of ghsv exposure and infection.

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32 minutes ago, Cas9 said:

Sir, no clothes are going to protect an infected penis from making contact with the lips and inner area of the vagina. And no clothes are going to protect an infected vagina from making contact with a penis.

oral ghsv??? What are you talking about??? The only connection between oral and ghsv is from oral sex; e.g. a person with ohsv performs oral sex OR a person with ghsv has oral sex performed on them. Oral dams are used for protection in that situation, NOT CLOTHES!

Herpes can occur anywhere? No shit!  So what does that have to do with clothes and GHSV ?

Are we going to mention some outside case where the woman has hsv on her butt cheek and then rubs her butt cheek against a mans penis? Would clothes covering her butt have prevented that exposure? Sure. But that doesn't represent 90% of ghsv exposure and infection.

"Sir, no clothes are going to protect an infected penis from making contact with the lips and inner area of the vagina. And no clothes are going to protect an infected vagina from making contact with a penis."

Are you serious?  Thats what condoms are for. I'm not telling  people quit using condoms, I never implied that. That should be common sense. I shouldn't even have to address it 

"oral ghsv??? What are you talking about??? The only connection between oral and ghsv is from oral sex; e.g. a person with ohsv performs oral sex OR a person with ghsv has oral sex performed on them. Oral dams are used for protection in that situation, NOT CLOTHES!

Herpes can occur anywhere? No shit!  So what does that have to do with clothes and GHSV ?

Are we going to mention some outside case where the woman has hsv on her butt cheek and then rubs her butt cheek against a mans penis? Would clothes covering her butt have prevented that exposure? Sure. But that doesn't represent 90% of ghsv exposure and infection."

Yes, I agree ghsv can be transmitted through oral sex and is most commonly found in the genital region. My point with that was to simply show u that it can be found anywhere. To which u also, agree. that aside, this is irrelevant.

 

"Sure. But that doesn't represent 90% of ghsv exposure and infection."

I slightly disagree, if 90% of ghsv is coming from the genital region then it's from unprotected penises and vaginas, which is what condoms are for.

The other areas of the genital region where condoms dont protect are the major risk. Which CAN be covered.

As for the other regions (testicles, perineum, lower abdominals, etc) clothes CAN cover those areas, As I've explained thoroughly.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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1 minute ago, 2kroc said:

"Sir, no clothes are going to protect an infected penis from making contact with the lips and inner area of the vagina. And no clothes are going to protect an infected vagina from making contact with a penis."

Are you serious?  Thats what condoms are for. I'm not telling  people quit using condoms, I never implied that. That should be common sense. I shouldn't even have to address it 

"oral ghsv??? What are you talking about??? The only connection between oral and ghsv is from oral sex; e.g. a person with ohsv performs oral sex OR a person with ghsv has oral sex performed on them. Oral dams are used for protection in that situation, NOT CLOTHES!

Herpes can occur anywhere? No shit!  So what does that have to do with clothes and GHSV ?

Are we going to mention some outside case where the woman has hsv on her butt cheek and then rubs her butt cheek against a mans penis? Would clothes covering her butt have prevented that exposure? Sure. But that doesn't represent 90% of ghsv exposure and infection."

Yes, I agree ghsv can be transmitted through oral sex but is most commonly found in the genital region. My point with that was to simply show u that it can be found anywhere. To which u also, agree. that aside, this is irrelevant.

 

"Sure. But that doesn't represent 90% of ghsv exposure and infection."

I slightly disagree, if 90% of ghsv is coming from the genital region then it's from unprotected penises and vaginas, which is what condoms are for.

The other areas where condoms dont protect are the major risk. 

As for the other regions (testicles, perineum, lower abdominals, etc) clothes CAN cover those areas, As I've explained thoroughly.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dear Lord, it is so difficult explaining to you.  What I'm saying is that the clothes are UNNECESSARY when a person has hsv on their genitals, BECAUSE THEY DON'T do a damn thing!!! That's what the condom is for. That's what's required, NOT CLOTHES!!!

The rest of your comment really makes no sense; i.e. it doesn't justify the comment that 90% of ghsv would have been prevented had we been wearing clothes during sex. But please, do go on.

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1 hour ago, Cas9 said:

Dear Lord, it is so difficult explaining to you.  What I'm saying is that the clothes are UNNECESSARY when a person has hsv on their genitals, BECAUSE THEY DON'T do a damn thing!!! That's what the condom is for. That's what's required, NOT CLOTHES!!!

The rest of your comment really makes no sense; i.e. it doesn't justify the comment that 90% of ghsv would have been prevented had we been wearing clothes during sex. But please, do go on.

Its difficult for you explain because you dont even understand your own statements or what "genital region" implies.

Condoms are designed only to protect the penis. Not the entire "genital" region as you seem to think according to your comment. 

Ill spell it out for you, that clothing will protect the REST of the genital region. This includes inner thighs, pelvis, groin, perineum, everywhere else around the penis.  Since condoms cannot protect beyond the penis it is the job of clothing to protect the surrounding areas.

They will damn thing because they will prevent skin to skin contact.

I'll rephrase it a few more times again, just for you. So you understand that I understand 

>I'm not suggesting in any way shape or  form that you should put a sock over your penis.

>clothes cannot replace condoms for penis protection

>only condoms can protect the penis.

>Condoms do not protect the surrounding genital regions of the penis.

>the genital region composes of penis and its surrounding areas (Which the condom cannot protect but clothes can).

USE CONDOMS DURING SEX

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The percentage is irrelevant. If MOST people got herpes on their penis or inner vaginas then, they should've wore a condom.

 

 My main point for that is that wearing clothes during sex couldve prevented from  herpes in instances were herpes was contracted in areas surrounding the penis.

 

Do you understand now? I'm saying that people should wear clothes AND condoms during sex to provide maximum protection from herpes. I shouldn't have even had to break this down.

 

Before u respond

just think for about it 2 minutes. During sex, If you're not kissing, youre wearing sweatshirt, sweats pants with a hole poked small enough for only your penis to get through, AND A CONDOM (which is protecting the penis to its base) then were is the risk for herpes? Where is the risk for skin friction?

The only possible scenario of exposure  is the centimeter ring of skin between the sweatpants and base of the condom. And that if the hole is too big.  Scroguard would SOLVE THAT PROBLEM COMPLETELY.

 

If there is no skin friction, Cas9, you simply have no argument. Instead of getting pissed like a kid, u tell me where the friction is. Tell me logically. If not then either agree or leave.

 

 

 

 

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The majority of infection occurs at the genitals, not the area surrounding the genitals. I thought my comments made that clear. So, no, 90% of cases would not have been prevented by being clothed, which has been my contention all along. They would have been prevented by simply wearing a condom. The Scro guard is reasonable for those cases where the infection is just outside the immediate area of the penis; e.g. the scrotum.  That should be good enough. I see nothing wrong with the scro guard. Being clothed, as you suggest, is not required.

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1 hour ago, Cas9 said:

The majority of infection occurs at the genitals, not the area surrounding the genitals. I thought my comments made that clear. So, no, 90% of cases would not have been prevented by being clothed, which has been my contention all along. They would have been prevented by simply wearing a condom. The Scro guard is reasonable for those cases where the infection is just outside the immediate area of the penis; e.g. the scrotum.  That should be good enough. I see nothing wrong with the scro guard. Being clothed, as you suggest, is not required.

 

"The majority of infection occurs at the genitals, not the area surrounding the genitals. I thought my comments made that clear. So, no, 90% of cases would not have been prevented by being clothed, which has been my contention all along."

You and I have 2 different ideas of what the genital region is. You refer to penis, I refer to the penis and surrounding areas as the genital region. This doesn't matter. You could've made yourself clearer by simply stating the penis and vagina are the most common sites for infection. 

I used condom and I still got herpes on my thighs because they were not protected by the condom. Not even scro-guard would've blocked the area. Pants would've saved me  though.

People can easily have herpes and hpv on their tummies,  breast, necks, ass hips, etc that in itself is a strong enough to reason to wear clothes during sex. Scroguard will not protect those extra areas, therefore, clothes are required as I've suggested. Even if the chance of someone having herpes anywhere else but the penis is 1%, it's still worth wearing clothes if you have sex with a stranger.

The fact that this could've prevent me from getting herpes is enough for me to SUGGEST THIS! This shit should be common knowledge and a viable option for everyone.

Also consider the migratory nature of herpes and asymptomatic shedding, GHSV can spread to other places of the body. If your clothed then that becomes a non-issue.

 

Anyway, What is your issue? You seem to agree with me on all major points. As long you're wearing a condom, scroguard, and clothes there is virtually no way for you to transmit or recieve herpes. At this point, you're just arguing to argue.

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4 minutes ago, 2kroc said:

 

"The majority of infection occurs at the genitals, not the area surrounding the genitals. I thought my comments made that clear. So, no, 90% of cases would not have been prevented by being clothed, which has been my contention all along."

You and I have 2 different ideas of what the genital region is. You refer to penis, I refer to the penis and surrounding areas as the genital region. This doesn't matter. You could've made yourself clearer by simply stating the penis and vagina are the most common sites for infection. 

I used condom and I still got herpes on my thighs because they were not protected by the condom. Not even scro-guard would've blocked the area. Pants would've saved me  though.

People can easily have herpes and hpv on their tummies,  breast, necks, ass hips, etc that in itself is a strong enough to reason to wear clothes during sex. Scroguard will not protect those extra areas, therefore, clothes are required as I've suggested. Even if the chance of someone having herpes anywhere else but the penis is 1%, it's still worth wearing clothes if you have sex with a stranger.

The fact that this could've prevent me from getting herpes is enough for me to SUGGEST THIS! This shit should be common knowledge and a viable option for everyone.

Also consider the migratory nature of herpes and asymptomatic shedding, GHSV can spread to other places of the body. If your clothed then that becomes a non-issue.

 

Anyway, What is your issue? You seem to agree with me on all major points. As long you're wearing a condom, scroguard, and clothes there is virtually no way for you to transmit or recieve herpes. At this point, you're just arguing to argue.

I'm arguing that being clothed the way you are suggesting, is not necessary; It's overkill and will not result in a 90% reduction of cases. Covering just the penis with a condom, would greatly reduce the spread of infection. Covering the area just outside the penis (e.g. scrotum) would also help and that's where something like scro guard would help. But I think it's quite reasonable to say that the percentage of transmission from the scrotum is far less than the penis.

Other than that, those other areas you speak of are very unlikely to spread infection via shedding because they are in contact with the areas of the partner that have a thicker skin. They would also not necessarily be associated with the sacral ganglia so it wouldn't result in ghsv. If there were sores present instead of just shedding, the thicker skin would still be in play AND it would be more obvious that sores were present so the one with the sores would avoid contact with their partner in those areas.

The bottom line is that being clothed would have very little effect on hsv transmission. Your position was that it would have a major affect (you said 90%). I disagree with that. If my position is still not clear, I don't know how else to explain it.

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51 minutes ago, Cas9 said:

I'm arguing that being clothed the way you are suggesting, is not necessary; It's overkill and will not result in a 90% reduction of cases. Covering just the penis with a condom, would greatly reduce the spread of infection. Covering the area just outside the penis (e.g. scrotum) would also help and that's where something like scro guard would help. But I think it's quite reasonable to say that the percentage of transmission from the scrotum is far less than the penis.

Other than that, those other areas you speak of are very unlikely to spread infection via shedding because they are in contact with the areas of the partner that have a thicker skin. They would also not necessarily be associated with the sacral ganglia so it wouldn't result in ghsv. If there were sores present instead of just shedding, the thicker skin would still be in play AND it would be more obvious that sores were present so the one with the sores would avoid contact with their partner in those areas.

The bottom line is that being clothed would have very little effect on hsv transmission. Your position was that it would have a major affect (you said 90%). I disagree with that. If my position is still not clear, I don't know how else to explain it.

"Other than that, those other areas you speak of are very unlikely to spread infection via shedding because they are in contact with the areas of the partner that have a thicker skin. They would also not necessarily be associated with the sacral ganglia so it wouldn't result in ghsv. If there were sores present instead of just shedding, the thicker skin would still be in play AND it would be more obvious that sores were present so the one with the sores would avoid contact with their partner in those areas."

Bullshit. This is how I got genital herpes! My "thicker skin" in that area did jack shit to protect me. I checked her ass and body, saw no sores yet i still caught it there. Condoms didn't stop it, and if you look at the scro-guard it does not protect the area i've mentioned. In my specific case, pants would've prevented infection. Are you going to address this?

"The bottom line is that being clothed would have very little effect on hsv transmission. Your position was that it would have a major affect (you said 90%). I disagree with that. If my position is still not clear, I don't know how else to explain it."

Ok, If penis/vaginal infection is where the majority (90%) of herpes infections happen then I'm wrong in stating it would've prevented most herpes causes. A condom is all that's needed. But this not mean wearing clothes is overkill or unnecessary. You don't need to bring this up anymore.

 

 But clothing/scro guard would prevent every other case WHICH IS STILL A LARGE   RELEVANT AMOUNT; A CONCERN. My situation is proof positive that wearing something beyond a condom and scroto guard is not enough. How have wearing pants have been overkill?  I'll repeat it again, My situation is proof positive that wearing something beyond a condom and scroto guard is not enough, how would wearing pants have been overkill?l This is why in an individual scenario, it  makes complete sense to wear pants before sex. Why bother risking it? You don't know how immune you are and you don't know how contagious she is.

So all this shit about tummy and leg herpes not being worth the precautions? Just no. 

Btw it's called Herpes Gladitorum: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Herpes_gladiatorum

"In one of the largest outbreaks ever among high-school wrestlers at a four-week intensive training camp, HSV was identified in 60 of 175 wrestlers. Lesions were on the head in 73 percent of the wrestlers, the extremities in 42 percent, and the trunk in 28 percent.[3] "

These statistics are big enough to requisite clothing use. Take note of how the COVERED torso areas had the lowest percentage.

Also, Scro-guard is no longer being produced because assholes kept mocking it online. Therefore clothing is all we have now to protect the regions beyond the penis, in absence of the scro-guard which you acknowledge as useful.

 

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"The bottom line is that being clothed would have very little effect on hsv transmission. Your position was that it would have a major affect (you said 90%)."

 

no no no, i could care less about the 90%. If someone's too dumb to use a condom, that's their fault. I'm talking about maximum sexual protection for each individual scenario beyond condom use.

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3 minutes ago, 2kroc said:

"The bottom line is that being clothed would have very little effect on hsv transmission. Your position was that it would have a major affect (you said 90%)."

 

no no no, i could care less about the 90%. If someone's too dumb to use a condom, that's their fault. I'm talking about maximum sexual protection for each individual scenario beyond condom use.

Your very first sentence of your OP:
"This just occurred to me, 90% of us could've avoided contracting herpes by just wearing clothes during sex."

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7 minutes ago, Cas9 said:

Your very first sentence of your OP:
"This just occurred to me, 90% of us could've avoided contracting herpes by just wearing clothes during sex."

So what? I already addressed this, now you're just grasping at straws. You quoting either shows you're desperate or do not understand the debate going on here.

"Ok, If penis/vaginal infection is where the majority (90%) of herpes infections happen then I'm wrong in stating it would've prevented most herpes causes. A condom is all that's needed. But this not mean wearing clothes is overkill or unnecessary. You don't need to bring this up anymore."

 

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1 minute ago, 2kroc said:

So what? I already addressed this, now you're just grasping at straws. You quoting either shows you're desperate or do not understand the debate going on here.

"Ok, If penis/vaginal infection is where the majority (90%) of herpes infections happen then I'm wrong in stating it would've prevented most herpes causes. A condom is all that's needed. But this not mean wearing clothes is overkill or unnecessary. You don't need to bring this up anymore."

 

Good, I'm glad you finally admitted you were wrong.

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After the procedure though, I felt much better for a while, possibly due to digestive issues clearing up after the colon “cleanse.” But this was concurrent with other issues.   About 3 weeks after the encounter I developed a large rash on my left thigh. Shortly thereafter I started having light sensitivity issues, culminating in a fever-like state after being outside in the sun only for 15 minutes after work. At work around that time for a couple days I felt like I was going through life encased in a gauzy gel- similar to being on laughing gas at the dentist, but not in a good way. I didn’t know what the hell was happening to me. I developed a severe case of canker sores for about a day. Later during a sunny drive, after getting back in the car at a gas station I noticed a red blotch below my lip. I tried to shrug it off but it happened again on the trip back.  So by about a month after the encounter I was having more anxiety. I spent the night at a friend’s house and woke up with a massive, swollen red eye and swollen lips. I got eye drops for bacterial conjunctivitis but that was wishful thinking.  A couple of weeks later, my lips were covered in sores. I smothered them with abreva. By the next day, they had mostly gone away. I tried to do a swab test at urgent care (I believe it was the next day), but there was not enough there to make any sort of positive diagnosis. Since then, I’ve had what you could call repeated aborted lesions and red blotches that appear around my mouth, particularly after stress and alcohol consumption. But even having peanut butter or chocolate would set it off for a long time. Fair skin doesn’t help- there was no hiding it. Two months after the encounter, I had my first vaginal burning- it was pretty intense and I had to use ice cubes because I didn’t know what else to do.   The worse feeling though was the periodic flare-ups of rectal itching/burning, often accompanied by another red line rash. It made sitting uncomfortable for about the next two months. I couldn’t wear pants at work- only skirts seemed to make things somewhat less irritated. And for the first three months, I was still testing for HIV along with HSV because of the overlapping symptoms (rash, diarrhea, neural pain, severe flu like symptoms without fever). I lost a lot of weight and had panic attacks. On top of all this I had just moved to a new city and started a new job and didn’t have a support network. And the sad thing is, I had to deal with all of this instead of being able to grieve for my father and being a better source of support to my mother. She had to support me without understanding what was happening.   Another bad thing through all of this was having both my ex and my current partner treat me like I’m crazy. That makes me feel alone and in the dark. Another “hysterical woman.” F*** that.  And while I felt grateful that my current was at the time still ready to be with me even if I had hsv, it’s a little discomfiting that he still doesn’t really believe me. But I’ve learned to live with ambiguity. And now I’m used to doctors as well as partners acting like this is nonexistent. Especially with negative IGG tests even 2 years later, which have left me without any answers.  I’m lucky in a way to be able to blend in because I don’t get obvious sores, genitally or orally (I can cover up the blotches with concealer, and they fortunately have lessened in frequency). But I still get the rectal itching/burning every six months or so (anthistamines seem to alleviate it a bit). And as more of a concern, I’ve had a cramp in my lower right quadrant ever since, which feels like it’s in my digestive tract. Since this has pretty much spread everywhere else in my body, intestinal involvement wouldn’t surprise me, and it isn’t unheard of anyways. I’ve tried to move past this and have since gotten married to my partner, who is a source of support (even if he doesn’t believe I’m having health problems. I know that’s a contradiction but occasionally I want to believe that too.).  I’m also newly pregnant, and symptoms have started to flare up again somewhat. I’m sure this will be an adventure. Hopefully more good than crazy. I know I’m going to struggle with the fear of passing this along but I’m trying to reconcile what doctors say (which is that it is extremely rare) with my own intuition about what I need to be careful of. Maybe I’ll repost with an update down the road. In short, there are people out there who test negative and have to live with loved ones and doctors thinking that a negative test closes the book on this. Again, learning to live with ambiguity is a real life lesson that I’m still coming to grips with. This forum and specifically this post have been a source of comfort that I haven’t been able to find elsewhere. Thanks everyone for the support for the community.     
    • Rockster
      You deepthroat so good that you get all kinds of mouth-to-skin-of-base contact? Kudos to you, but that is extremely rare. 
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