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Just got a positive result .what are my chances of never seeing another sore,What are the chances of finding a permanent girlfriend that won't run for the door when I tell her!Ya I'm feel'in very depressed & scared.Can anyone help or tell me something positive.This site is the first "good"thing I've come across since I got the news.I live in Canada so we don't have quite the resourses you have in the States.any help or support would be greatly appreciated.I can't help but feel like getting out my gun and.............but I have 2 kids that really need me!!

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mmm sorry to hear about the news, but its not so bad....

Chances of having another outbreak... mmm pretty good.... But they get easier, shorter... You'll forget you have it sometimes

I'm 29... Had hsv since I was 21...

I always tell girls usually within the 2 week to 3 week time that I've been dating them...

I've told 9 girls who I had started to date... None of them 'ran'. They all stuck around, and all led to good relationships that ended for other reasons..

Besides girls who I've started to date, I've told hundreds of friends, acquaintences... hell even strangers... I've had girls who knew I had herpes just from being my friend, want to date me a few months later.

HSV has never been an issue...

Of the 9 girls that I had just met/started to date... Reactions vary... Most took the news without any kind of negative reaction.... 1 was a tiny bit upset, but after about 15 minutes and talking about it, she was cool... 1 was REALLY upset (she was the first I told) and I thought she was going to not want to see me, but after 2 days, she called me, said she still wanted to see where things went with us.

I know it seems like people won't accept it, but I can ASSURE you they will.

If you are an honest and caring guy.... You'll have NO problem finding girls who will date you with it. NO PROBLEM AT ALL...

I promise...

I can't help but feel like getting out my gun

Yeah... been there, felt like that...

You'll get a few relationships under your belt 'post HSV' and you'll laugh at how down you were.

Seriously.... You can still have everything you want... You can still have a 99% normal sex life. HSV is a minor inconvenience... Its easy to live with... and when you get in a committed relationship... your girlfriends period will be WAY more of an inconvenience then HSV.

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Hi Mr. nice guy.

Just the fact that you chose that for a name tells me you are going to be OK. I too have had feelings of ending it - then look at my daughter... well, you know.

You hang around this site for a while and you'll see some more positives. I'm not going to go into stuff that Pilot has said - because I'm usually right there with him on the opinion poll.

And plus, I'll be in Canada this weekend skiing - so you know there will be at least 2 of us up there!!! You and I both know there are alot more. The last guy I talked to from this site was also from Canada. And once you open up to trustworthy people about it, the edge will be taken off.

I just recently met a wonderful man through a HSV site which I NEVER thought I'd try. That was my path. Find the path that fits you best and you will find someone to walk with you. I promise.

Life can be so wonderful if you let it. Concentrate on those babies you have until you are strong enough to add someone else to that list. You have just found a few new friends here.

Best wishes.

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Here is something positive

I met a man less than a month ago that I absolutely adore.. he told me earlier this week that he has herpes and you know what? it hasn't changed my feelings for him one bit. To the contrary- I have a lot of respect for the courage it took for him to tell me. Hang in there..

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