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katie8

Worried and wanting

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katie8

Im not sure why but ever since I found out I have herpes I have been constantly thinking about having children. I am always on the computer doing research about mothers with herpes and there experiences. The weirdest part is my body is craving a child. I dont have children and didn't plan on having them for a few years (because I am younger and dont have a long term bf/husband)

Maybe its because I have been thinking about the health of my future children soooo much that my body has slipped in to mommy mode.

Has anyone had anything like this happen after finding out they have herpes?

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memyselfI

yeah

I do, I always worry about it though. Even prior to herpes but after I was diagnoised the fears really hit home even harder. Its normal to have fears. Don't worry, you can still have children and if you're young then don't sweat it. I don't know your relationship status but maybe your just ...you know, wanting to be loved. I volunteer at my church for Sunday school (2nd & third grade girls) my brother has a baby (with his wife), the truth of the matter (for me) is I want a baby so bad, I want children so bad but I really don't have any urge to be a single parent. It looks so hard!!! My whole family seems married (no divorces) and to me it just seems like I'd rather fall in love get married and then have kids if it happens... now granted I might change my outlook in ....10 minutes but if God wants me to meet my guy and have kids he'll let me know; I ALWAYS HAVE MY EYES OPEN :D

I'm glad you writing about it! Have a great right now and try not to worry too much about "the future"

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gal24

That Is Exactly How I Feel.. I Think Its An Age Where Your Body Is Saying Its Ready To Have One.. And There Is A Low Chance To Pass It To Your Child.. Dont Worry Things Will Come When They Are Suppose Too..

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HSV2Mom

I had the opposite feeling. When I found out that I have HSV I told my boyfriend (because we didn't have sex before marriage) and told him I was ok if he wanted to get out of the relationship because he had been with one other person in his entire life and I felt horrible. I told him that I would love him no matter what his decision. Well, he stayed and we got married and he now has it too because he didn't want to use condoms and said we were in this together.

Anyway, we went back and forth about having children. I was so torn about having them. I wanted one but I had no idea (and still don't) what the long term effects would be. Would this child have outbreaks during life because of me. I couldn't get a doctor to answer any of my questions and I still have no idea if she will have outbreaks later on. It's horrible to think that my child could hate me because I gave her something that will haunt her for the rest of her life.

Well, we took a chance and got pregnant and now have a daughter. We still worry and have concerns because we aren't able to find statistics on the effects later on in life.

It's definitely something to think about when you think about having children. I wouldn't take anything for her though because she's the best thing that has EVER happened in my life.

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