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Reactions to Herpes in South-East Asia?

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viralfrog

Does anyone have experience about people's reactions to Herpes in Asia? Personally I live in Thailand where I also caught the virus as a condom broke 4 years ago. 

Unfortunately I infected my ex-girlfriend with HSV-2. This was just after I had caught the virus myself and we had sex before I noticed and realised what it was. In the beginning, a local doctor told me I have just hurt my foreskin with my jeans' zipper and the tests came as negative. After getting tested later it came as positive. 

Anyways, my ex-gf (well educated, professional, 26 years old then) she had no idea what Herpes was in the first place. She didn't really care too much about it and didn't bother to get tested. During our 3 year relationship we kept having unprotected sex as usual and she never had any issues until at the end one day. She had a very minor outbreak once and nothing after that (lucky her, no like myself who gets terrible symptoms non-stop). I know she has a strong immune system, because she was never sick despite myself having bad colds quite often. In any case, she could not care less about this virus and didn't mind at all.

I've seen a lot of hysteria surrounding Herpes in Europe and the US. What has been your experience in South-East Asian countries like Thailand? Do people perceive HSV-2 as a worrying disease? 

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islandhopper

I acquired HSV2 about 7 years ago from my Thai girlfriend at the time, who had 'played away' We got back together and i asked her to get checked up, but of course, they dont check for HSV. I was more concerned about HIV.

She didnt know what HSV was, and to be honest, i didnt recognize her symptoms at first, despite having been fearul of herpes in the past, her symptoms just looked like a cut. Unfortunately, it was too late for me and got HSV2.

I read in article that 50% of Thai woman have HSV2, but of course most wont have symptom, or at least very mild. The Thai's arent big on condom use, and i imagine the same goes for countries like the Philippines.

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IAmDesperate

Hi, I'm originally from South East Asia and I can tell you that the majority of Asian don't really care about herpes. In my home country (which I would like to keep it as a secret), they call herpes with a different name and the doctors don't consider it as a dangerous disease and people rarely go get a checkup for that cuz they don't know what it is. I didn't know about this until I got my test result back and started to look for information. South East Asian don't have sex ed like other countries in Europe or America so STDs are something strange to them and they don't freak out about this. My sister in Australia said that Australian don't even care about it since so many people have it.

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Joel7
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On 10/21/2018 at 6:09 AM, viralfrog said:

In any case, she could not care less about this virus and didn't mind at all.

@IAmDesperate Do you think this ex-gf planned to disclose her condition to future sexual partners? Somehow I'm thinking "no" ...

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IAmDesperate
1 hour ago, Joel7 said:

@IAmDesperate Do you think this ex-gf planned to disclose her condition to future sexual partners? Somehow I'm thinking "no" ...

I doubt she would. Let's hope there would be a cure in 5 years then disclosure is no longer needed. I know it seems crazy for me to say so and hope is a dangerous thing to play with but after all, it's what gets us going through all these crappy things in life. So please hope so. And please don't forget to donate to Keith Jerome's research! The link is below :)

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MiLoBeng
On 6/3/2019 at 6:08 AM, IAmDesperate said:

Hi, I'm originally from South East Asia and I can tell you that the majority of Asian don't really care about herpes. In my home country (which I would like to keep it as a secret), they call herpes with a different name and the doctors don't consider it as a dangerous disease and people rarely go get a checkup for that cuz they don't know what it is. I didn't know about this until I got my test result back and started to look for information. South East Asian don't have sex ed like other countries in Europe or America so STDs are something strange to them and they don't freak out about this. My sister in Australia said that Australian don't even care about it since so many people have it.

Hi, I'm also from SEA and I AGREE with most doctor would say it's not a dangerous disease and how SEAsian lacks Sex ED (including myself) when compared to other countries in EU or US. However I kinda disagree with "they dont freak out about this" until when they found out it's a form of STD (which is the main cause of STIGMA) and how it can impact our daily life (social/relationship/family) and infectious to the toddler. SEAsian (especially from where I'm from) arent that open like Westerner so yea... that pretty much sums it. 🙁 

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MiLoBeng
1 hour ago, IAmDesperate said:

I doubt she would. Let's hope there would be a cure in 5 years then disclosure is no longer needed. I know it seems crazy for me to say so and hope is a dangerous thing to play with but after all, it's what gets us going through all these crappy things in life. So please hope so. And please don't forget to donate to Keith Jerome's research! The link is below :)

I hope so. Been really pessimistic for the past few months right after diagnosed. Am feeling like I've wasted my life 😔

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IAmDesperate
On 6/17/2019 at 10:51 PM, MiLoBeng said:

Hi, I'm also from SEA and I AGREE with most doctor would say it's not a dangerous disease and how SEAsian lacks Sex ED (including myself) when compared to other countries in EU or US. However I kinda disagree with "they dont freak out about this" until when they found out it's a form of STD (which is the main cause of STIGMA) and how it can impact our daily life (social/relationship/family) and infectious to the toddler. SEAsian (especially from where I'm from) arent that open like Westerner so yea... that pretty much sums it. 🙁 

Most of the people I know, they don't freak out about it but I apologize for my assumption. SEA should have provided more sex ed for students and I regret that I didn't know about it sooner. But let's hope there will be a cure in 5 years. Call me crazy and all and I know miracle exists :) so chin up!

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MiLoBeng
3 hours ago, IAmDesperate said:

Most of the people I know, they don't freak out about it but I apologize for my assumption. SEA should have provided more sex ed for students and I regret that I didn't know about it sooner. But let's hope there will be a cure in 5 years. Call me crazy and all and I know miracle exists :) so chin up!

It's alright and I really admire your positivity

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alextheman
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Yeah in the philippines,they mostly worry about Hiv,chlamydia and maybe gono. When i got my positive test i talked with the past women i was with about my positive test.They all thought i was talking about HIV.I said no its hsv type 2, herpes.They dont even know what it is.

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MiLoBeng
4 hours ago, alextheman said:

Yeah in the philippines,they mostly worry about Hiv,chlamydia and maybe gono. When i got my positive test i talked with the past women i was with about my positive test.They all thought i was talking about HIV.I said no its hsv type 2, herpes.They dont even know what it is.

Just explain to them it's similar to chickenpox. Then slowly introduce them about herpes. This way they'll understand better. 

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heididehk

Heyyy guys I’m from Hong Kong but hope to join the discussion cus there ain’t many Asians here 

 

anyway... there is almost none positive articles on HSV in Hong Kong... they talk about it as a scary thing and only people who have multiple partners (I’m not against it) can contract it. No support group or organisations like western countries :/ I wish I could find someone with HSV in Hong Kong to chat 

 

I certainly wasn’t aware of the virus, and my friends don’t know as well. So sex Ed in Asia sucks 

 

one positive thing is I have disclosed to my mother and friends and they think this is not a big deal... I told my friend I feel like a walking virus like walking dead and he hugged me for two hours to show me no one would be scared of me because of this 😃 

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MiLoBeng

Hi. You're more than welcome to join the discussion over here. However you won't find much ppl from asia to talk about herpes. Mostly asian ppl dont know much abt herpes and even if they do. Many of them will just keep it to themselves rather than reaching out since STI in asian society is considered a big taboo and nobody talks abt it. That's the harsh reality of it. 

3 hours ago, heididehk said:

One positive thing is I have disclosed to my mother and friends and they think this is not a big deal... I told my friend I feel like a walking virus like walking dead and he hugged me for two hours to show me no one would be scared of me because of this 😃 

I'm glad tht you have someone to talk abt and I hope you'll find new purpose to move on again. 🙏🏻

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StayStrongOk

Hello. I am from Malaysia. I would say that here we also lack of sexual education. Received some lecture on sex ed for like an hour in primary school and then none in secondary school neither when I was in the university. I think they should have provided more.

I have not disclosed my HSV status to anyone except one close family member, so I am not sure how the general respond would be. The family member did not know about the virus at all. Hospital workers(non-doctors) seem to show that clueless body language when I say the word "Herpes". Several doctors I have met however do know about the subject and did not show any stigma towards me. One of them do even realize statistics show that billions among global population are infected with at least one of HSV strains.

There is this one doctor though made me feel really bad when I first tested positive with low positive. I got HSV1 IgG 1.52 and HSV2 IgG 1.34, the doctor said these are high values and regarded Herpes as evil virus. I myself did not know much about the virus that time and have to bring myself out of mental damage due to being stigmatized by a medical doctor. Shame.

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MiLoBeng
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2 hours ago, StayStrongOk said:

Hello. I am from Malaysia. I would say that here we also lack of sexual education. Received some lecture on sex ed for like an hour in primary school and then none in secondary school neither when I was in the university. I think they should have provided more.

I have not disclosed my HSV status to anyone except one close family member, so I am not sure how the general respond would be. The family member did not know about the virus at all. Hospital workers(non-doctors) seem to show that clueless body language when I say the word "Herpes". Several doctors I have met however do know about the subject and did not show any stigma towards me. One of them do even realize statistics show that billions among global population are infected with at least one of HSV strains.

There is this one doctor though made me feel really bad when I first tested positive with low positive. I got HSV1 IgG 1.52 and HSV2 IgG 1.34, the doctor said these are high values and regarded Herpes as evil virus. I myself did not know much about the virus that time and have to bring myself out of mental damage due to being stigmatized by a medical doctor. Shame.

Hey there fellow Msian. Hope you're doing ok. It's definitely not a life threatening virus but it's a stigma in our society  (mainly because it's incurable and it's a STI). And you're right abt the acknowledgement of sex ed in Msia. Generally asian dont really know anything abt herpes. 

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Radium

I got HSV from a girl in the Philippines in just one session.. She did not disclose and claims she wasn't even aware of it but thinks she got it from a British guy before. I had to ask her if she had any of the symptoms one-by-one and she said the most she got was itchiness and that's about it. For me the symptoms have been much more severe but seem to be easing by the month.

Herpes is not something that people in the Philippines seem to be aware of nor care about. Lots of Filipino guys swing both ways and people are mostly worried about HIV and 'tulo' (gonorrhea), and maybe chlamydia. I had to explain to my gf what Herpes is and how it behaves. Explaining it as similar to chicken pox but reoccurring in one area of the body seems to be the simplest way to get the message through.

Testing for HSV is not included in the STD tests in the Philippines either. I did try to look for an IgG test but gave up as it is not worth my time. So what I had was a visual confirmation by a doctor (didn't even recommend swabbing), some prescription drugs and a sales speech about HPV vaccine.

I'm originally from Europe and in my country they educate about Herpes but tend to play it down as nothing to worry about. Oral HSV is extremely common and seems like nobody really cares about genital HSV as well.

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heididehk
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23 hours ago, StayStrongOk said:

Hello. I am from Malaysia. I would say that here we also lack of sexual education. Received some lecture on sex ed for like an hour in primary school and then none in secondary school neither when I was in the university. I think they should have provided more.

That's so true. I've never seen an actual condom in class. I studied in a religious all-girls secondary school so maybe that's why. And then in uni I guess they assume we all know but we don't know shit.

 

Also hey you awesome Malaysians!! I was in Malaysia in June and I really enjoyed touristing in Kuala Lumpur and George Town ❤️ I was H free then and I stayed up a lot and drank and partied hard. I had all the energy to explore without a worry. I miss that. lol Maybe I still can? But an OB is so uncomfortable that I would like to avoid it as much as possible. 

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heididehk
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On 9/30/2019 at 1:53 AM, MiLoBeng said:

Hi. You're more than welcome to join the discussion over here. However you won't find much ppl from asia to talk about herpes. Mostly asian ppl dont know much abt herpes and even if they do. Many of them will just keep it to themselves rather than reaching out since STI in asian society is considered a big taboo and nobody talks abt it. That's the harsh reality of it. 

I'm glad tht you have someone to talk abt and I hope you'll find new purpose to move on again. 🙏🏻

@MiLoBeng thank you so much ❤️ I found this forum for Hong Kong and Taiwan uni students and I found quite a lot of girls in a relationship have it! Most of them caught a terrible cold and the virus decided to attack them. 

 

They have few reoccurrences and they don't think it's an STI. Anyway, I don't really care if it is labelled as an ''STI'' or a skin condition; I just want to feel physically comfortable again. 

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MiLoBeng
2 hours ago, heididehk said:

@MiLoBeng thank you so much ❤️ I found this forum for Hong Kong and Taiwan uni students and I found quite a lot of girls in a relationship have it! Most of them caught a terrible cold and the virus decided to attack them. 

 

They have few reoccurrences and they don't think it's an STI. Anyway, I don't really care if it is labelled as an ''STI'' or a skin condition; I just want to feel physically comfortable again. 

You're welcome and I'm sure you will feel physically comfortable again. 

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heididehk

Thank you soooo much I hope everyone here gets a stronger body, stronger mind, makes conscious choices to love ourselves, and life will be kinder to us ❤️ 

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