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Hi,

Hoping for some advise.  

Last Thur I had sex then by Sunday I had severe itching in genital area (thought it was thrush).  On Monday i noticed a spot near vagina entrance (yellow looking) and flu symptoms started.  By Wed i was in tears with pain, couldn't walk or pee without pain.  Dr said i had an infected hair follicle.  Friday GUM clinic visually diagnosed me as having HSV and gave me Aciclovir.  They took a swab and i will get results next week but they said even if this comes back as negative it could just be a false result and that from the visual inspection and symptoms IT IS HSV.  Still in bed now, still in pain, still feel hopeless.

 

But I have to tell the person I had sex with.... I'm scared. I don't know what to say.  

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24 minutes ago, speechless_1 said:

Hi,

Hoping for some advise.  

Last Thur I had sex then by Sunday I had severe itching in genital area (thought it was thrush).  On Monday i noticed a spot near vagina entrance (yellow looking) and flu symptoms started.  By Wed i was in tears with pain, couldn't walk or pee without pain.  Dr said i had an infected hair follicle.  Friday GUM clinic visually diagnosed me as having HSV and gave me Aciclovir.  They took a swab and i will get results next week but they said even if this comes back as negative it could just be a false result and that from the visual inspection and symptoms IT IS HSV.  Still in bed now, still in pain, still feel hopeless.

 

But I have to tell the person I had sex with.... I'm scared. I don't know what to say.  

It's not clear to me whether you think he gave it to you or you already had hsv and may have given it to him. Prior to him, when did you have sex?

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3 minutes ago, Cas9 said:

It's not clear to me whether you think he gave it to you or you already had hsv and may have given it to him. Prior to him, when did you have sex?

I have no idea who passed it to who.  I have never been tested for it - Other STIs routinely yes and never been positive for one - but I was never tested for HSV.  It's never offered as a test.  

Prior to him was July.

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To me it sounds like he have it to u so it may be ok to tell him. He might not know he has it but based on your timeline it seems like it was from your recent sex. 

Has your pain eased. I experienced excruciating internal pain. ?

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To me it sounds like he have it to u so it may be ok to tell him. He might not know he has it but based on your timeline it seems like it was from your recent sex. 

Has your pain eased. I experienced excruciating internal pain. ?

The pain is only now easing this afternoon.  Yes, excruciating is the word.  I felt physically sick with the pain... i had no idea this could cause such pain.  It's been a horrible 6 days.  

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@speechless_1 yes. I kept going to work but felt like i had dagger inside. The dr just downplayed it. I read some really good blogs on this re how ppl eased the pain but mine had passed. They used creams and bathed and peed in water to reduce it . Also i think wear cotton underwear etc .

i hope u r ok and have support waiting for this results is an awful feeling and exp something one is never prepared for 

 

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@speechless_1I agree that it's more likely he gave it to you based on the time line. There's nothing to be afraid of; i.e. If he gave it to you, you certainly shouldn't be afraid. If you gave it to him, it was unknowingly so there's nothing to feel guilty or afraid about.

Also, what's your relationship with him; Was it a one night stand or were you planning to continue with him?

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@speechless_1 yes. I kept going to work but felt like i had dagger inside. The dr just downplayed it. I read some really good blogs on this re how ppl eased the pain but mine had passed. They used creams and bathed and peed in water to reduce it . Also i think wear cotton underwear etc .

i hope u r ok and have support waiting for this results is an awful feeling and exp something one is never prepared for 

 

Thank you.  I've not told anyone. Not sure I have anyone I can confide in. I think I may spend a lot of time on here... 

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@speechless_1I agree that it's more likely he gave it to you based on the time line. There's nothing to be afraid of; i.e. If he gave it to you, you certainly shouldn't be afraid. If you gave it to him, it was unknowingly so there's nothing to feel guilty or afraid about.

Also, what's your relationship with him; Was it a one night stand or were you planning to continue with him?

Thanks.  We have been dating here and there for a couple months.  He's the only person I've been dating, can't say if that's the case for him.  Was hoping it would maybe continue to more.  I have no idea how he will react.  He will blame me i think.  

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