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cp073025

I just told someone I was seeing that I had Herpes, I waited 3 weeks to tell her and she ended things because she felt betrayed. 

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Dee22

I think it depends sorry to hear. I think it places us in a really vulnerable situation and if u do not know if u want to keep seeing the person and u have only been on a few dates u do not need to tell them. I think of u feel u have seen them a fair bit and u may get intimate u need to disclose. If she was not willing to even hear u out that it is hard to have that talk and the fear of rejection then that says more about her. 

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Ladyb2018
On 11/5/2018 at 11:43 AM, cp073025 said:

I just told someone I was seeing that I had Herpes, I waited 3 weeks to tell her and she ended things because she felt betrayed. 

How did you explain it ? Do you have 1 or 2 ? I’m wondering and just would like to know as well . 

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Dee22

There are some really good posts on disclosure on this site. Sometimes u can advise u tested positive for hsv instead of just blurting it out and then discussing how it effects u and what it means. If that person wont even hear u out... they aren’t worth it. But still a very bad experience for u and i am not minimizing it. I fully gwt the difficulty of it. As i am in the same boat. 

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Dee22

You can do it . It’s something u have to do and its a part of u but not who u are. 

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