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Hey guys, 

I’m need of serious advice. I’ve been recently diagnosed and I’m currently talking/dating someone ( found out a week after we started talking ) , I really like him and we plan on having our first real date next month I’ve been avoiding it because of the diagnosis honestly. Nevertheless we are co workers so we keep it professional and just converse at work like normal and  talk on the phone and text all the time outside of work but we haven’t seen each other outside of work yet because I’m honestly trying to take it slow because I still have my reservations since the diagnosis especially with sex. I know I don’t want to disclose on our first date so I can get to know him more before I give out this type of information because we do work together but I definitely want to disclose before sex , I have HSV2 . Please advise I’m so lost or share a similar experience. Also what’s the transmission rate with antivirals and condom use ? Has anyone been dating that has HSV2 doing both and partner isn’t effected ? I just want to be able to educate him when it does come up.

Thanks guys!

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    • blurneworder
      That’s why I’m seeing a specialist who can do that. Not every doctors office have swabs available, so maybe that’s the case here. I’ve called urgent care clinics before to ask if they swab for HSV and many around here said no.  
    • WilsoInAus
      I doubt this. If the doctor had ANY suspicion that you had herpes around the eye a swab would  have been taken. Gross negligence otherwise. This is totally insulting to the intellect of our readers. Mate, it’s time to leave the delusion behind before you do yourself or anyone else real harm. What do you have to fear by believing you do not have herpes?
    • blurneworder
      Would you like to call my eye doctor and tell them this? The cornea is fine, but there is damage to the outside of my eye. Damage she has seen in other patients with herpes of the eye. I am not making this stuff up. 
    • blurneworder
      Do you have any photos? Sounds similar to me.
    • WilsoInAus
      Hang on that’s not the case. The doctor knows full well those symptoms align potentially to long term HSV-1 infections. You cannot do a swab for eye herpes. The diagnosis involves inspection of the cornea. I am not sure why you feel the need to spread misinformation. Of course you have tested negative for HSV more than three months post possible infection. It is DANGEROUS to both yourself and others to assume your symptoms are herpes related when they may actually be serious. Please reflect upon your need to attempt to erroneously validate other people’s symptoms in order to support a baseless interpretation of your own symptoms.

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