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Hi, A guy I was intimate with for quiet a while had symptoms a month after our last intercourse. he's tested positive for HSV2 and has had mild but reoccurring symptoms since then, He hasn't been with a new partner within that month after we stopped and getting the symptoms, also his IGG test would indicate that he's been infected for awhile and therefore while we were together. 

My dilemma is, I haven't had any symptoms, I got screened for symptoms and the doctor didn't see anything. however based on the fact that we've been very intimate, there is a high chance I carry the virus but haven't shown symptoms, or like him, they've been so minor I haven't detected them. Now I'm conflicted because I don't know if I should get tested or not! On one hand I think I should get tested to be informed and to avoid spreading (if I have it), on the other hand I'm not sure if I can handle the emotional side effects after knowing I definitely have it! 

I haven't discussed this with any of my friends and I'm not planning on doing that. He would've been the only person i would go to in a situation like this but we're no longer friends. I'm not sure how this information will affect my confidence and how I will be able to cope with it so I guess I'm trying  to run away from the truth. 

I wanted to see if anyone has been in my situation before? If you're infected, have you had partners that you had protected/unprotected sex with that were not infected?  I can't decide whether or not i want to go through with the IGG test and I need some input to be able to make the decision! 



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    • IcantThinkofaName
      yes, get IGG testing ASAP, but be prepared for it to come back negative this first time if it is your first infection. A swab would be better if you have fresh blisters.  If they are already healed, and if its your first infection, be prepared for another subsequent OB (I'm sorry to tell you) coming soon after the first.. You can get swabbed at that one then.  Stay strong.  Support your immune system. Get rest. Take Vit. C and some other herbals might be nice...I have posted some stuff about that in the past. collodial silver gel or spray perhaps too directly on sores hugs to you
    • Sigh335
      No, no Custer. I pop it and it comes back. Thanks you so much for responding.
    • WilsoInAus
      @Franky26 your vows include "from this day forth" - there is no fine print that grants you annulment for previous actions and certainly not for the random assortment of herpes viruses that every person walks down the aisle with. To the extent that it was required (and I do not believe it is, although this is not relevant) your partner has been forgiven in the eyes of the Lord for all her past actions; as part of your marriage vows you are joined in that forgiveness. That blood test is notorious for false positives, Having an oral HSV-1 cold sore infection is a known risk factor for a false positive. So yes I do recommend obtaining a further ELISA test. You may even try to obtain the Westernblot from University of Washington for the definitive word on the subject.
    • WilsoInAus
      It is pretty definite he has HSV-2 so at least you will be concordant in that respect with no fears of passing it to him. Yes, there is a good possibility of some outbreaks within the first few months, however, this will not be a sign of your longer term experience which should improve tremendously.
    • Franky26
      Hey @WilsoInAus   Thank you for your reply, we live in north America, she did the test here in Canada, I will attach a copy of the test below. I understand your point of view but its hard for me to cope with this. I never thought this would happen to me which I m sure most people feel the same.  yes I did took vows for better or worst but I feel those vows are for whatever happens after marriage not because of something happened in the past.  i feel like this is something that is going to remind me of her past for the rest of my life. its not easy for me to look past that.   
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