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Wow. So, I just got the test results about an hour ago. After calling my mom and sobbing uncontrollably, I did some reading. I read a lot about other women's experiences, and also ended up on this website. Needless to say, I am incredibly upset about it. I feel disgusting. Dirty, gross, like nothing. The worst part: I don't know who gave it to me. I have had more than one sexual partner this past month, and frankly, it is going to be fucking hard to tell them. I don't know how I am going to tell these people, how they will react, if they will tell our friends. Who will I be known as? Who will I become? I'm concerned about future relationships. How to tell those future boyfriends. Will anyone ever love me? I don't want this to become who I am, but right now in the moment, it's hard. Luckily, I am getting medication and seeing a therapist next week. I think that will help. I'm shattered. I'm currently in college, and this is going to be a chip on my shoulder for a while. It almost sucks not having other people know, because they have no idea how hard this is or what I'm going through-- getting diagnosed, all the symptoms, etc. For now, I'm going to try and just take each day at a time. Morale is low, will to live is low, but we always make it to tomorrow. Always. It's never the end, and I don't want this to be the end. Anyways, here I am: needing support, and also ready to give it. 

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WilsoInAus

Hey there @imtryingmybest could I just start by saying how maturely you are handling this.

I do suggest not rushing too much I to any conclusions.

I think let’s deal with past partners first. I feel a lot depends on the circumstances and the type you have been infected with.

So starting there was your swab properly typed using an immunofluoresence antibody test?

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@WilsoInAus Yes, I went to an urgent care and they did a full pelvic exam, swabbing for everything. I just got the results today saying I tested positive. I'm not sure of the type, but there were symptoms mainly in the genital area, and slightly in the mouth. 

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WilsoInAus

Please get a full printout of whatever is positive.

Check whether the culture swab was typed.

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2 hours ago, WilsoInAus said:

Please get a full printout of whatever is positive.

Check whether the culture swab was typed.

I checked, and the swab was not typed. It just says that it came back positive. 

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WilsoInAus

Very often the case. You can ask your doctor for this sample to be typed using an immunofluoresence antibody test.

Was there only the one partner in the 7 days leading into lesions?

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