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Cure_hopeful

Why am I being treated so bad?

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Cure_hopeful

Im in so much pain because the guy I was seeing just wont respond to me. I call text and i get nothing. When i first told him over the phone cause i was out of town he just thanked me for tellin him because he said most people wouldnt have said anything. He's been tested but hasnt said if he has it or not. Last time i spoke with him he said he was busy, that we both were busy and that it takes time. I just dont understand how you can claim to care about someone but then totally ignore them. I dont know what to do im tired of calling and textin him. Im hurting because all i want to do is know that he is ok and ive told him that if he hates me and doenst want to speak to me anymore thats fine just tell me and i will leave him alone. All he says is that he doesnt hate me and that i dont listen. WHY AM I BEING TREATED LIKE THIS WHY?! :(

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1hopnot

Omggggg I have pretty much the exact same story if you look at my thread called "a little suspect" or just any of them. I had to do the same thing because I was out of town and both the guy and I are busy. Anyway I feel you. Let me know what happens or PM me.

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Ren

You, like me, are being treated badly because you have herpes, ditch this shallow moron, think nothing of him ever again, and get someone better.

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ouch

You did the right thing in telling him. it sucks that he is not responding back to you....but you know, people DO get scared. That is the bottom line and we can't be totally bad mouthing the person who is doing the running. I mean, if WE were herpes negative, would WE be oh so understanding if a potential mate said "hey, I have herpes". ??? I think most of us here would also be a bit afraid.

You did your best, you did the right thing, but now ease up on the guy, stop calling/texting/emailing him. If he wants to run, then let him . There are WAY more fish in this big ole pond of ours. But I would definitely move on from this guy.

Take Care!

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alwaysalone

let him go. hes not worth it. there is nothing you can do because he does not want to take the time to get to know you and work with the problem. its ok. you can do better. your integrity and morals will help you find a great man i promise. just be patient and they will come to you when you least expect it.

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walking the thin line

I am in the exact same boat as you. We both had been scared and up until he tested negative, he was very supportive. His more recent email said that he won't 'abandon me' and the he's here to 'be a friend and listen'. I believed him. However his actions speak volumes: he takes longer to respond to my emails and they are shorter, less understanding.

It pisses me off b/c I tried to be an adult and offered him an out of our friendship. I said that I'd understand if we parted ways so I can have fond memories of what we shared. Instead, he wants to draw this out like peeling a band-aid off slowly (aka- he's a coward and won't admit that he's an a**). I plan on telling him this week that he is the toxic one in the relationship. Sure, I'm good enough to sleep with, but not talk to/ or be friends with?

You can PM me and we could talk more if you want. Hugs!!

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