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I was just recently diagnosed with HSV1 but the outbreak is on my vagina and I do not have any cold sores on my mouth.  I thought it was ok to kiss the man I've been dating and give him oral since I don't have any sores on my mouth.  But now both he and I are panicking that I may have passed it to him unknowingly.  What exactly is the risk?  What should I do?  What should he do?  I just started taking the medication today and we were kissing last night.  I feel so stupid for not knowing it could still present a risk.  

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WilsoInAus

Hey @YellowFish if you have a genital HSV-1 infection alone, and this seems likely from what you describe, then you absolutely cannot pass this from any activity from your mouth. This includes kissing and oral sex.

Far from stupid, you exercised real smarts and played it safe to have fun in confidence.

Has this guy tested for HSV-1? Good chance he carries it already meaning he’s pretty immune anyway.

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YellowFish

@WilsoInAus He has not tested for it.  I asked my doctor if I could still kiss him and she said "I wouldn't be kissing anyone right now because there is no way to know for sure that you're not shedding the virus from your lips" and I'm just really really freaking out that I gave it to him. I just thought that since I don't have any open sores on my mouth it would be fine.  I hate all of this. I don't know what to tell him to ease his mind.  

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WilsoInAus

I’m not sure why the doctor would say that. If you do  it have an oral infection then you don’t shed from their at all.

How were you diagnosed with HSV-1?

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YellowFish

@WilsoInAus  My doc took cultures from the spots on my vagina.  She told me they were HSV1 meaning they are the "oral" kind but affecting my genitals.  

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WilsoInAus
3 hours ago, YellowFish said:

@WilsoInAus  My doc took cultures from the spots on my vagina.  She told me they were HSV1 meaning they are the "oral" kind but affecting my genitals.  

Without an oral outbreak at the time of primary infection of your genitals, you can be confident you only have a genital infection.

Remember that this guy will have kissed and received oral from women with HSV-1 previously!

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guaj14

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Amylouise
On 12/1/2018 at 6:22 AM, WilsoInAus said:

I’m not sure why the doctor would say that. If you do  it have an oral infection then you don’t shed from their at all.

How were you diagnosed with HSV-1?

Strange ya said that cos I had HSV 1 oral and genital. You can have both herpes strain 1 of the genital and oral variety.  So be careful yellowfish doing oral sex in case you have both.  Ya might of already had oral and then you picked up the genital variety more recently.  The antivirals do shit to help passing it on, it's messed up

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WilsoInAus
1 minute ago, Amylouise said:

Strange ya said that cos I had HSV 1 oral and genital. You can have both herpes strain 1 of the genital and oral variety.  So be careful yellowfish doing oral sex in case you have both.  Ya might of already had oral and then you picked up the genital variety more recently.  The antivirals do shit to help passing it on, it's messed up

I am sorry but I call BS. Your posts are very troll-like. According to you, you have been cured!!!!

Three cheers: Pip... Pip... 

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Amylouise

Ur the troll u don't even know what your talking about. U didn't even know u can have HSV 1 oral and genital sheesh go Pip urself 

and what's worse you work for the blog and your telling people what to do wow that's scary 

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WilsoInAus
Just now, Amylouise said:

Ur the troll u don't even know what your talking about. U didn't even know u can have HSV 1 oral and genital sheesh go Pip urself 

That’s not what is being talked about. Dual Infections occur at the same or similar time. We are talking about the high immunity from established infections.

I find it helps to read and understand posts before commenting.

You also suggest that antivirals do ummm ‘shit’ whatever that means in terms of transmission. Not so, antivirals are the only thing proven to reduce transmission rates.

But this doesn’t concern you any more as you no longer have HSV at all!

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Gems
On 12/1/2018 at 5:37 AM, YellowFish said:

I was just recently diagnosed with HSV1 but the outbreak is on my vagina and I do not have any cold sores on my mouth.  I thought it was ok to kiss the man I've been dating and give him oral since I don't have any sores on my mouth.  But now both he and I are panicking that I may have passed it to him unknowingly.  What exactly is the risk?  What should I do?  What should he do?  I just started taking the medication today and we were kissing last night.  I feel so stupid for not knowing it could still present a risk.  

There are many strains of hsv 1 and 2 and you can even catch a second strain. I've noted in threads and experienced some strains are worse than others. Likely I HAVE TWO STRAINS OF hsv2. If you have no sores present AS IN NO INFECTION EVER on your mouth and your partner also does not transmission is not possible this is irrespective of the strain. 

I would still be careful of transmission where there is infection even with antiviral medications. Everyone responds differently to medications. Transmission can still occur without symptoms. 

If you are medically minded, personally, I would use diet alongside the meds and look after your health carefully. I'd make sure your partner is aware of the risks past the pharmaceutical claims of reduced risk of transmission as I imagine that is variable depending on the carriers health. This is from my personal experience, but please do your own careful research.

I think its important to fully research the long terms risks of the medications either it is not often fully informed consent at the GP's office.

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Gems
On 12/1/2018 at 6:14 AM, YellowFish said:

@WilsoInAus He has not tested for it.  I asked my doctor if I could still kiss him and she said "I wouldn't be kissing anyone right now because there is no way to know for sure that you're not shedding the virus from your lips" and I'm just really really freaking out that I gave it to him. I just thought that since I don't have any open sores on my mouth it would be fine.  I hate all of this. I don't know what to tell him to ease his mind.  

Do not engage sexually without anyone been tested. I think your GP is stating just because you have no symptoms on your lips doesn't mean you could not have picked it up at the same time as the genital symptoms or any other time. That is why this disease is so freaky. You can have it anywhere and often may not know. Not only that it is very difficult to diagnose. 

I do not think you should panic, but to reduce risk your partner should be tested and no oral without a condom. 

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On 11/30/2018 at 2:14 PM, YellowFish said:

@WilsoInAus He has not tested for it.  I asked my doctor if I could still kiss him and she said "I wouldn't be kissing anyone right now because there is no way to know for sure that you're not shedding the virus from your lips" and I'm just really really freaking out that I gave it to him. I just thought that since I don't have any open sores on my mouth it would be fine.  I hate all of this. I don't know what to tell him to ease his mind.  

You need a new doctor if you are already sure it’s ghsv1 then it’s not oral . I have the same thing and my doctor said no it’s no way to pass it by kissing . Only thing you should worry about it him giving you oral sex really . Even the genital to genital rates are only about 3-5% . You’re fine and so is he 

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