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PurpleandGray

Hi all. So a few years ago I got HSV2 from some drunk jerk who basically attacked me. The first year of having the virus was pretty unbearable with horrible outbreaks every few weeks and that was on Vaktrex, Lystine and OLE. My body has calmed down quite a bit, I’m still on Valtrex and Lystine daily but even on those I still get outbreaks at least once a month during ovulation as well as from any sexual activity.  I’m so worried that since my outbreaks seem to be hormone related that I might even get worse as I get older. I’m 34 now. Since my outbreaks also happen with sexual activity it’s hard to have a lot/if any actual sex. I had dated a guy this past summer who was ok with just having an oral sex relationship but of corse he got tired of just doing that. So do I have any chance of dating/finding love if I can’t give someone a fulfilling sexual relationship? I feel like it’s hard enough disclosing that I have the virus let alone saying that I get frequent OBs and basically can’t have intercorse.  Do you think it’s fair to even try dating or am I better off just trying to make new friends? I’m feeling sad and lonely and hoping that I don’t have to stay single for ever because of this horrible virus. 

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PurpleandGray

No I have finally tested positive by igg this summer. It’s crazy it took so long for my antibodies to build up. 

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cowpoke02

why bother tetstong positive if you know you have it ? lol.  don't answer .   well it goes in phases .. you probably get better on sex causing out breaks ..  i had a phase like that .. friction would cause skin to just melt away . dissolve .  crazy shit ..  drugs and medicine can cause out breaks  cause body immune can be lowered trying to process the drugs out of the body .. who knows . .  external they have good topics to treat with ..  how you eating as well. i live in hell if i don't make my own food . no more brownies .  soy source in many things you have to watch out for . even in so called healthy flat breads to chips ..  cakes you have to make your self.   keep out food additives , sugar ,  my snacks now are dried fruit , fruit veggies ,  popcorn , ice cream .  i drink whiskey now it don't seem to effect me .  brandy .   internal who knows maybety nz condense honey with methyls . it attacks the virus usually .  jam that inside and soak .  i only know that and dynamiclear can take out virus make out breaks  smaller .. less . stop them .  dynamo has basically copper sulfate hammers the virus ..  heavy metal though .. haha.   shit floats in the air . i used to run foot baths for cows .  run the rate then dump 50 pound bags into water .. breath it in and get cancer ..  but in day or two disabled hardly walking cows walking good again and hoof wart dried up ..  it works ..  can't used it inside though ..  

    you find a way eventually ..  trying apricot seeds rate now ..  helping my over all health so far .. vitamins in it and ph levels .  i eat dried apricots with them through the day .  i got few spots on where you get blood taken .  hoping its killing  it off slowly ..  i been eating better a well . combination .   turmeric good for inflammation and viruses .  strong stuff ..   sprinkle it on your food . don't taste really some times it adds flavor ...  bio 30 could help suppress lot .  tea tree propolis  ..  helped my internal problems  .  strong stuff tincture ..    lemon balm tea and supplements are out there .. pure lemon balm and soak that in all time might do it ..  drink the tea and eat the supplement . .   good luck ..  best things i know off . lemon balm can squash that skin virus you get from chicken pox when older . forget the name . oh yeah its shingles ..   

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cowpoke02

better chance of cathicng more diseases . haha. but if you change your life and get out of the rut and male good choices you can do it ..  even with out the disease you getting the box in smaller area's or no options and make bad choices ..  then create a repeating theme . if i date one person type or age it advertises fro more of the same or can use it to get farther up ..  life  cycles in circles . once a road patch is started its hard to get off it . go vacation and get put of it and usually find better people .  easier for guys than women .  easy to get used and liberal thinking and progressive you may be free and all but you most likely scare away best options .  life a bugger ..  people fall in love so its either they stuck with a asshole scumbag who ruin they life any way vs living with a torn\mal or cool person .  despite the negative ..  positive things bring positive and better health .. immune system goes way up . way up . haha.   people suck man , society shaped greed and abuse , i don't care if people die cause they killing me with abuse , laws , ignorance complacent .  so don't worry most people ant worth dating or talking past face value .  don't lower standards and self esteem is all thats the trap that led me here .. or i'd been healthy most my life ..  you get burned and ignorant but most things go away  or a short battle for cured .  think your dirty and such and boom you increase odds for more diseases . lol.  most people suck so don't worry about them or pleasing a asshole . haha  take care .

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PurpleandGray

Thanks Cowpoke, and you’re right most people do such so I’m not even sure why I want to bother dating again haha. I guess I just don’t want to be old and lonely due to something that happened to be in my 30’s. Praying for the best! 

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cowpoke02

sounds like my life . got in control learned my lesson got dumb and trick one last time .  sent me packing and it happened from mindset in 20's . think your bad and i was actually good .. doctors any way .   they have ways to stay younger now .  i can hook yu up for that or joint repair . haha .  getting older now holding onto my youth bette most people.   main thing is good will .  only worth have sex with few people any way ..   learning about west survalience as well say you are political or protestor i know people have baby from dating national security spies .. haha. people date you to see what your doing or mess up your life.   many people just have personality disorders gonna play you into the ground even own family will do it . no empathy people .  i learned and wasted a lot of my life on family.  so don't worry about other people .  most are i it for their own gain . run from advice most times they want things for free . haha . no benefit to your life ..   have fun ..  you have good attitude and personality .  make theist of it .      

   i use to b to political online plus ;local criminals and rumors i got isolated  and vandalized out .  had the gvernemt hotel an d security fake electric company guy in my yard .. stalked by cops . they take personal information male it public to friends even . people say things to you to mess with ya he'd then pretend nothing happened .  haha.  so don't even care about people . have fun do what you think so you enjoy it incase playing games you come out a head . haha     . prey and plan ,,  ilk to much . bored at home . haha.  take car e. 

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WilsoInAus
3 hours ago, PurpleandGray said:

No I have finally tested positive by igg this summer. It’s crazy it took so long for my antibodies to build up. 

Then very likely a false positive.

Please do not let the fear of herpes ruin your love life, there is no need for your life to be this way.

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PurpleandGray

lol it’s not a false positive. I have sores they swabbed as well. It’s pretty pathetic you’re still on here trying to convince people that they don’t have herpies. If I would have listened to your advice a few years ago I would have thought I was HSV free and would have been spreading the virus around to a lot of innocent men. Everyone please ignore and/or block WilsoInAus he’s ignorant when it comes to knowing the truth about HSV.   

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WilsoInAus
30 minutes ago, PurpleandGray said:

lol it’s not a false positive. I have sores they swabbed as well. It’s pretty pathetic you’re still on here trying to convince people that they don’t have herpies. If I would have listened to your advice a few years ago I would have thought I was HSV free and would have been spreading the virus around to a lot of innocent men. Everyone please ignore and/or block WilsoInAus he’s ignorant when it comes to knowing the truth about HSV.   

I’m obviously correct in my assertions. 

No it isn’t pathetic, please reflect upon what you are writing. It quite clearly isn’t the truth. HSV-2 is hardly a game or some exclusive club.

We are all trying to tell you to live your life. Please reflect upon your need to write what you do. Only you can help yourself here.

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Tone123
9 hours ago, PurpleandGray said:

No I have finally tested positive by igg this summer. It’s crazy it took so long for my antibodies to build up. 

How long did it take for your antibodies to build up? Did you test regularly or took awhile to test and noticed antibodies 

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PurpleandGray

Hi Tone I repeatably tested negative for a year and a half. I then started dated a new partner (my first since getting HSV)  I wanted us both to get tested for all STDs together and low and behold it finally came up positive for HSV2.  

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WilsoInAus
18 minutes ago, PurpleandGray said:

Hi Tone I repeatably tested negative for a year and a half. I then started dated a new partner (my first since getting HSV)  I wanted us both to get tested for all STDs together and low and behold it finally came up positive for HSV2.  

Was it IgM, IgG, what was the value? Huge chance this is a false positive. That would be good news for the relationship.

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JenniferHoney
On 12/1/2018 at 11:09 PM, PurpleandGray said:

Hi all. So a few years ago I got HSV2 from some drunk jerk who basically attacked me. The first year of having the virus was pretty unbearable with horrible outbreaks every few weeks and that was on Vaktrex, Lystine and OLE. My body has calmed down quite a bit, I’m still on Valtrex and Lystine daily but even on those I still get outbreaks at least once a month during ovulation as well as from any sexual activity.  I’m so worried that since my outbreaks seem to be hormone related that I might even get worse as I get older. I’m 34 now. Since my outbreaks also happen with sexual activity it’s hard to have a lot/if any actual sex. I had dated a guy this past summer who was ok with just having an oral sex relationship but of corse he got tired of just doing that. So do I have any chance of dating/finding love if I can’t give someone a fulfilling sexual relationship? I feel like it’s hard enough disclosing that I have the virus let alone saying that I get frequent OBs and basically can’t have intercorse.  Do you think it’s fair to even try dating or am I better off just trying to make new friends? I’m feeling sad and lonely and hoping that I don’t have to stay single for ever because of this horrible virus. 

Hi! I’m super late but I noticed the topic and had to reply. My name is Jennifer (Duh, lol) and I have been positive since I was 19, I’m 25 now. There is a very good chance at finding love again and enjoying a very active sex life. It’s very hard in the beginning and can be depressing for a long time but it’s not a death sentence & it’s not something you should dwell on for the rest of your life. Like I said, I was 19 when I was diagnosed, I’m 25 with a fiancé and our beautiful 1 year old son. It’s very possible to live a normal, happy life. Hang in there! :)

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PurpleandGray

Thank you so much Jennifer! So happy for you that life is treating you so well :) thank you fir the encouragement!!

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Roja

You are still the same wonderful and interesting person you were before herpes. Never forget that!

I am also engaged with a great man who doesn't care about me being HSV+. A good relationship is not all about sex. There is also being there for each other, listening, having fun together, making plans, crying, laughing, going on vacation, cooking together, waking up together in the morning. Maybe herpes changes your sex life a little bit (even though not much to be honest), but in the end you have the same right and chance for finding someone who truly loves you. :yep:

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PurpleandGray

Thank you so much Raja!!! You’re reply means a lot to me!!

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cowpoke02
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On 12/2/2018 at 12:07 PM, PurpleandGray said:

Thanks Cowpoke, and you’re right most people do such so I’m not even sure why I want to bother dating again haha. I guess I just don’t want to be old and lonely due to something that happened to be in my 30’s. Praying for the best! 

tell ya a secret .  apricot power .com /   buy apricot seeds .. one bag few weeks in start seeing difference .  i see it worked for some one else on here //  ..  melted way my problems ..   try it and if it works you can thank me later / working so good rate now for me horny as hell . cause used to symptoms and torture . it worked internally   .. i see old post they stopped having out breaks .. works and simple.   try it . i almost gaureentee it will make big difference . hugs . take care .  that get ya back in relations feeling good.  after that live where have pot . make hemp oil .  dose at night and few puffs  probably stay healthy .   

     any way try it out .  if it works it help others .  then we celebrate and back onto life . haha.     take dried apricots with it to take better . i think they help as well .  do it for  humanity and to kick viruses ass.  send me a message . see hw it goes .  pretty sire it will work with in couple weeks ..   

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IcantThinkofaName
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Yes, I am certain you can find love, as elusive as it is, it is  certainly possible

:)

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RNY18

 

I can relate to story and I sympathasize with your pain

I recently tested positive for HSV 1 & 2. Had a first OB a year ago , then same symptoms about a year later, seemingly same place.

Got tested.

Have never had an oral OB, still feeling despondent . I seem to notice the majority of posts are from women who have sexual relationships .

If I am reading your post correctly, you are still finding sexual partners, even with your disclosure . I think that is commendable.

Would like to hear more from guys out there and their experiences. This happened to me late in my life. 

I am also feeling sad , lonely and deeply depressed . I had hoped to get married someday and now feel I will have to give that idea up.

Really at a loss....

Thanks

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PurpleandGray

Thank you so much IcantThinkIfANane! That means s lot!

RNY18 I’m so sorry you’re in the same boat. I get outbreaks from having vagional sex leaving  me to have relationships based on oral sac only lets me honest how many goes can really go without intercorse :(

I’m in my 30’s now so I’m hoping that once I’m in my 50’s guys will calm down a bit and look for more of a companion based relationship. Hoping for the best for all of us. 

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