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scaredbuthopeful2015

I have a new partner and we are getting close but he is extremely scared to be intimate...even to the point that he wants to wear gloves for intimacy.  He wants a guarantee he will be safe, and I told him I am on 1000 mg valocyclovoir and 1000 mg L-Lysine daily.  That the risk is approx. 2%.  However I noticed in some posts that this risk states annually, can someone please give me any/as much of a breakdown and info on this to help me ease his mind.  I care about him very much and want him to feel comfortable and safe.  I would never put his health at risk...and of course we would also use condoms.  Thank you for any help you can give me.  Lora

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WilsoInAus

Yes, the transmission odds are 2% over a full year. That’s 100 hot times a year!

Actually the odds are 4% with no measures put in place and no outbreaks when having sex.

Antivirals would halve this to 2% and condoms half again to 1%.

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2 hours ago, scaredbuthopeful2015 said:

I have a new partner and we are getting close but he is extremely scared to be intimate...even to the point that he wants to wear gloves for intimacy.  He wants a guarantee he will be safe, and I told him I am on 1000 mg valocyclovoir and 1000 mg L-Lysine daily.  That the risk is approx. 2%.  However I noticed in some posts that this risk states annually, can someone please give me any/as much of a breakdown and info on this to help me ease his mind.  I care about him very much and want him to feel comfortable and safe.  I would never put his health at risk...and of course we would also use condoms.  Thank you for any help you can give me.  Lora

If he wants a guarantee to be safe, he should better stay at home forever - and alone :giggle: Just kidding. Come on - even if he leaves you, he will have sexual relationships with others some time, right? Well guess what, the majority of these people have HSV-1 in their body, a huge part of them on their genitals (not even mentioning other STDs). He will never be absolutely safe. So he should relax, take his gloves off and enjoy some good intimate time with the person he loves. :)

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