How to navigate a relationship where both people have HSV2 genital and one caught HSV2 oral from the other?!?!By mcf1971
I have genital hsv2 and started dating someone who also had genital hsv2 a couple of months ago. I've had it for 18 months and he already had it for 27 years. I haven't been on antivirals because I only had the initial outbreak and 1 more mild one during this time. He was aware of that when we got into this relationship and was not worried about it but, unfortunately I believe I transmitted hsv2 to his oral area when he performed oral sex on me. Then he freaked out, I don't blame him...it was a bad outbreak. He now says that he is afraid of going down on me and doesn't know if we will be able to get passed that. This happened over the past couple of week and I discovered that he already started to check out the positive singles website again. I'm so sad!! I realize that there is a high chance that I passed this to him so now I have hsv2 genital and he has both oral and genital.
Another issue is that when we started to get intimate, I got tested for other sexually transmitted diseases and asked him to do the same. He dismissed me saying that he was very busy and was going to get to it "as soon as possible." I reminded him about the std testing after all this and he was still dismissive. If there is one thing I learned from this is that from now on I will have a conversation about sexual health/safety before even touching them! It's crazy how it's so much easier to have sex before these conversations.
What to do?
Should I get on antivirals?
Should he get on antivirals?
Or both of us?
If I have an hsv2 genital outbreak or shedding and I don't realize it, can the other person get an outbreak when they are already positive in that area?
Is there hope for us? Could he just be looking at the site because he is confused or he wasn't that interested to begin with?
Going on 11 weeks of back to back obs. I was diagnosed with HSV2 but it is on the palm of my hand. I just now started taking daily antivirals. Im nervous about taking the meds and any side effects I could get from taking them daily, also wondering if my body will become immune to them?
Is it normal to have so many outbreaks?
I’ve never had an ob on my genitals but I feel like I would know if I ever had right? I’m scared because my dr told me I didn’t need to tell my sexual partners and didn’t need to worry about using condoms because the ob is on my hand and I always keep it covered. Last night I started freaking out about the possibility of having it on my Genitals and wondering if I have passed it to my current partner and I’m freaking out about having to tell him. Can anyone help? I have a doctors appointment next week so I’m stuck waiting and stressing until then.
Im avoiding caffeine and I’m taking lysine plus a million other vitamins. What are common triggers that you all deal with? I’m staring to think I’m having so many long lasting ob’s because I’m in the sun all the time? How does that even trigger the ob?
When you guys have prodrome symptoms how many doses of acyclovir does it take to knock out your OB if you catch it quick?
Interesting longitudinal study from Taiwan showing that when those with HSV took antivirals the risk of developing dementia is significantly reduced.
Since this study was the result of examining available information, not a direct placebo controlled study, it will be interesting to see the outcome of the two current placebo controlled trials on this topic.
The main topic is about hiv, but later in the article they say,
"The researchers say, in the future, the oral drug delivery device could be used for a wide range of diseases, not just HIV."
A once a week valtrex pill perhaps?