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Does anyone ask their new partner to get tested?

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Hi guys. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about my future and am pretty nervous about going out and getting another STD. Do you think asking potential partners to get tested for all STDs is an outrageous thing to do? If j were to do this is even be willing to pay their copays! I  want to find love but I feel so worried about being infected with an STD for a third time! I’ve only had three partners it’s not like I’m out walking the stress haha I’m just very unlucky when it comes to dating! What do you all plan to do when it comes to dating in the future? 

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Im not planning on having sex before marriage again, but i think asking for tests is totally normal. I know i will. I actually asked with my last partner, but herpes testing is not in the normal testing package here and when he asked they gave him an inaccurate test (pcr with no lesions). So i thought he was stdfree. :/

Anyway, yes, do ask!

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