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Fresh out of a relationship. How do I tell new people?

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Hannah95

I recently got out of a relationship (from the person who gave me hsv1). How do I tell someone new that it’s not a big deal? Often times I forget I even have it because I haven’t had an outbreak since my first (over a year ago). I know I have to tell them still but how do I make them understand it’s not this horrible thing people make it out to be? 

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Anon222

JBnATL has a great topic about this at the top of this section. I would check that out! 

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WilsoInAus

@Hannah95 having g HSV-1 opens up a few avenues.

I’d open with that you have the cold sore virus and about some mutual testing before sex. If you both slam down positive HSV-1 tests then happy days. There’s but really any need to then discuss location.

Renember that more guys have HSV-1 than don’t. You’ll often be greeted with a comment such as that they get cold sores too.

If they are negative, the mature ones will know 2/3 or more women have HSV-1 anyway. It’s a risk they have taken before and undoubtedly will again.

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