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Miss Annie
On 1/5/2019 at 1:51 PM, KG303 said:

Hey @Miss Annie have you tried looking into dating sites or meeting someone else with HSV? That way there’ll be no worries about spreading it, well, cause they already have it :) stop living in fear. I’m late but it’s not a life threatening virus and as long as you are careful and on meds the risk should be pretty low. Don’t think no one will accept you, plenty of guys don’t give a shit. Get out there and live your life. Don’t let this virus take everything from you. And if you’re not comfortable, plenty of people are in the same situation we are and I’m sure you could find someone. Best of luck to you. Sorry about the shitty boyfriend. 

Thank you. Yes, I was on Positive Singles and met someone I was with for 2 years. We recently broke up but may work things out. Truth be told, dating is touch. With or without a virus. 

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All these stories break my heart but its nice to know that we’re all not alone in this. My was basically an assault at a party in the bathroom.  I was dumb for even going in there with him but I was ok with kissing and touching... he was drunk and I was buzzed. He pulled my pants down and trusts into me. It was literally less then a minute long and now I have this for the rest of my life. It’s been terribly painful but it’s also made me a stronger women. We live in a crazy world. I’m just doing my best to get through it and hope that there’s somewhere better on the other side. 

One issue I have with that same night is I had a good friend with me who didn’t stop me from going inside with this guy. She sat there and laughed at me and then later on told me that “he’s not a good guy to be around.” I stopped talking to her after this. She doesnt know I got HSV from it. She was a lifelong friend who let me be taken advantage of and hurt by some jerk. Sometimes I think of reconnecting but then I remember her laugh that night and think otherwise...

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