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Hello! I’m new here, I found out about 8 months ago that I am living with Herpes. I have been dating my boyfriend for 10 months. I was infected last January. I was out with friends and went to an after party at a mutual friends, friends, party. I ended up getting drugged and raped. I woke up the next morning, covered in my own blood and in an unfamiliar place. Once I got home, I realized I had the worst pain in my genital area. Later to get tested and be positive for herpes. It’s one thing to have herpes, it’s another to have received them through rape.

Anyway, When I found out, I didn’t tell my boyfriend, I was unsure how he would react. It came out one night when I was drunk and he was so angry with me. We are still together and moving to a new state together. But he continues to bring up the fact that I have it and he is terrified he’s going to get it. How can I comfort him, how can we get our relationship back to how it was before he knew? We used to be extremely sexually active (twice a day), now it’s like twice a month, with a condom. 

My boyfriend could not cope with the fact that i had it and that he still has not gotten it, he made me get a third test done for his satisfaction. Ive now had 4 tests done. Two came back slightly positive, like .2% over the “ inconclusive” results, one completely negative, and one positive. Help?? What does this mean?

I have done research for a black market cure, has anyone else? 

I found one that is being studied in the  Caribbean  and Mexico. Has anyone else seen anything else about this? 

Or know any homeopathic  cures?

Thanks for your help. And for reading this long post! 

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Roja

Hi TaylorNicks, 

wow, what a story. What happened to you is horrible. Are you talking with some mental professionals about all that?

Concerning HSV I would recommend you to get a swab if you are not sure. This is usually done while you have an outbreak. Have you ever had one? 

However, the pain in your vagina the day after might come from the violation I guess. As far as I know herpes has an incubation period of 3-6 days. It could also be that you have had the virus already for a long time (as you had no lesions). What did your blood test say? HSV-1 or HSV-2? 

I wish you all the best!  

 

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