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So I started dating this guy but before we started dating I disclosed it to him. The conversation we brief and we didn’t talk about how our sex life would be but he accepted it. It’s my first relationship since finding out so I don’t know if we should get more information on it, maybe go talk to my obgyn? I’m concerned that when we do have sex, he’ll get it. I currently take Valcyclovir (500mg daily) and we would use condoms but is there anything else I can do? Any advice would be great.

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You’ve done what you need to.   Disclosed, taking daily valtrex and using a condom.  

female to male transmission is much lower than male to female.  

There is always a chance but you have reduced your odds greatly.  I assume you are hsv2?   

Avoid sex during outbreaks and for several days after.  

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    • IloveCoco
      Omg you crack me up. Being reckless is sleeping with a condom and not having any other sexy foreplay before just in case? This was not a random dude I just met at the bar that night, he had been talking to me for 3 months before.  The lawyer was reckless for not disclosing or taking antivirals or whatever. I trusted him for being so nice to me. 
    • IloveCoco
      How could I have gotten hsv1 on my genitals as a child??? I’ve never had a coldsore either in my life. My body changed after I had sex with that idiot, which sucked  and it’s not pointless to know who did this to you when in some states it’s considered a crime to transmit an std to another person. 
    • sincere40
      Thank.you @Distraught1
    • Morpheo
      its very very very hard to know who gave it to you..my drs told me is pointless. and to come back positive for hsv1 on blood test, its alsaw kind of dumb because most people get it as children, and they dont have any outbreak..so could be the lawyer..or not...
    • blurneworder
      I am in a similar situation. I experience the dizziness every day. I feel fatigued most of my day. I get tiny cuts in the genital area and lips. I get burning/tiny red dots in the genital area. I get tingling sensations in different areas. Valocyclavir did not work for me. I have a tiny, white bump on my lip that crusted over. All tests (no Western Blot) have been negative. Blood work is negative. This all started after I had unprotected sex.   What are your oral outbreaks like?

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