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Miss Horne

I obviously can only speak for myself but since being diagnosed with hsv a few years ago my life and myself as a person has changed drastically. I never had an easy life (who has) but I was healthy, happy and looking forward to the future. No website tells you what it’s really like to have herpes and I wouldn’t want to make anyone feel worse about having this virus but it’s had a profound effect on me. I’m not the same anyone, I’m forever suffering from this virus or thinking about it, most days both. Not a single day goes by where I don’t ask myself why did this happen to me, why wasn’t I educated about it and why isn’t there better treatment available. My mind is like a prison, I’m not able to talk to anyone about this, I’m not able to explain to people why I’m constantly ill and I don’t have the strength to engage in relationships or friendships anymore. So when I read websites and listen to Doctors telling me this isn’t a big deal it upsets me, it is a big deal for me, it’s changed my life forever and I fear I’ll never be the same again. I’m tired of it and feel like I’m being punished every single day. I know there are far worse things that could happen to me but at times I feel so lost and completely out of my depth. I don’t know why I’m typing this, it serves no purpose but I just need to get it out there I suppose. 

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WilsoInAus

@Miss Horne I feel you can own your issues more to resolve them.

What testing have you had done for bacterial, fungal and viral issues related to your genitals?

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Gems
1 hour ago, Miss Horne said:

I obviously can only speak for myself but since being diagnosed with hsv a few years ago my life and myself as a person has changed drastically. I never had an easy life (who has) but I was healthy, happy and looking forward to the future. No website tells you what it’s really like to have herpes and I wouldn’t want to make anyone feel worse about having this virus but it’s had a profound effect on me. I’m not the same anyone, I’m forever suffering from this virus or thinking about it, most days both. Not a single day goes by where I don’t ask myself why did this happen to me, why wasn’t I educated about it and why isn’t there better treatment available. My mind is like a prison, I’m not able to talk to anyone about this, I’m not able to explain to people why I’m constantly ill and I don’t have the strength to engage in relationships or friendships anymore. So when I read websites and listen to Doctors telling me this isn’t a big deal it upsets me, it is a big deal for me, it’s changed my life forever and I fear I’ll never be the same again. I’m tired of it and feel like I’m being punished every single day. I know there are far worse things that could happen to me but at times I feel so lost and completely out of my depth. I don’t know why I’m typing this, it serves no purpose but I just need to get it out there I suppose. 

thanks miss horne. im just commenting on threads like this w/ support. being here has been distressing 4 me  too. 

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WilsoInAus
40 minutes ago, Gems said:

thanks miss horne. im just commenting on threads like this w/ support. being here has been distressing 4 me  too. 

Jay, stop. You don’t have herpes hence the empathy is fake. That does way more harm than good. I’m sorry you’re incapable of seeing that - please try!

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Voyager2
3 hours ago, Miss Horne said:

why wasn’t I educated about it and why isn’t there better treatment available. 

I felt the same way for quite a while. Herpes was hardly ever mentioned in the media in 1991. I felt like I had dropped into a hole in the side walk that a workman forgot to place a saw horse in front of. There needed to be warnings all over the place. Something to plant a seed of doubt in my mind to keep me from doing something foolish. I've learned I cannot really trust anyone. She could either have it and not know, or know it and not care. I'm determined to use a condom if I ever get into that situation again, which hasn't happened in a long time and may never. It's been life altering.

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Gems
28 minutes ago, Voyager2 said:

I felt the same way for quite a while. Herpes was hardly ever mentioned in the media in 1991. I felt like I had dropped into a hole in the side walk that a workman forgot to place a saw horse in front of. There needed to be warnings all over the place. Something to plant a seed of doubt in my mind to keep me from doing something foolish. I've learned I cannot really trust anyone. She could either have it and not know, or know it and not care. I'm determined to use a condom if I ever get into that situation again, which hasn't happened in a long time and may never. It's been life altering.

it is particularly difficult here too. so many people dont want to hear about sensible safety precautions. obviously we know most people are fine but it is a duty of care to tell them about the basic safety precautions to avoid the real and rare events.

i personally am hopeful to clear this infection...this is my business and no one elses...

if i did such an impossible thing i would never allow any one to kiss me on the cheek...or shake my hand...id just tell them im not touchy feely...thats it.

people can do what they want...the stigma will continue because of the rare and uncommon events.

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WilsoInAus
1 minute ago, Gems said:

it is particularly difficult here too. so many people dont want to hear about sensible safety precautions. obviously we know most people are fine but it is a duty of care to tell them about the basic safety precautions to avoid the real and rare events.

i personally am hopeful to clear this infection...this is my business and no one elses...

if i did such an impossible thing i would never allow any one to kiss me on the cheek...or shake my hand...id just tell them im not touchy feely...thats it.

people can do what they want...the stigma will continue because of the rare and uncommon events.

Incorrect Jay, stigma exists from people like yourself who are unable to embrace herpes as a human virus. Nothing more, nothing less.

It has nothing to do with uncommon events. Do car crashes mean people are not allowed to drive? Are car crashes discussed at the time of acquisition of a new car?

Please disregard our resident troll.

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sheenas

Same gurl. It can happen to just anyone.. such a sad song. Lets just hope theres a cure if we're here in 20 years

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