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Cold sores ruined my day,my relationship, and my life

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pepikw

Today I woke up with a cold sore and today was my date with my boyfriend. I haven't told him yet due to my shame about having it and the fear of his reaction. He was hurt I acted really distant from him and I feel so hurt too :’) I feel like the cold sore ruined everything. I wish I can just get rid of it or just disappear.  Now I feel so guilty inside and I don’t want to go on living. I wish i never got herpes and I just wish no one gave it to me :’) It’d be fine if I had it, but asymptotic. I wish I was normal.

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WilsoInAus

Hey @pepikw you are normal, carrying a very typical human virus. This in all likelihood came from a parent or relative when you were very young.

I don’t think your boyfriend will care all that much and he probably already has HSV-1. He’s dated girls with HSV-1 before little doubt!

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Cas9
3 hours ago, pepikw said:

Today I woke up with a cold sore and today was my date with my boyfriend. I haven't told him yet due to my shame about having it and the fear of his reaction. He was hurt I acted really distant from him and I feel so hurt too :’) I feel like the cold sore ruined everything. I wish I can just get rid of it or just disappear.  Now I feel so guilty inside and I don’t want to go on living. I wish i never got herpes and I just wish no one gave it to me :’) It’d be fine if I had it, but asymptotic. I wish I was normal.

You ARE normal since 3 of 4 people carry oral hsv1.

Let's see, my parents had cold sores; my sister and I had cold sores; aunts and uncles had cold sores; kids at school had cold sores; girls I dated when I was a young man had cold sores. When you have a cold sore, or you feel one coming on, avoid kissing or oral sex. That's it!

Stop being rude to your BF and have fun :)

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PositiveMONA

You are still the person who you are before you know you have it. Usually when someone becomes diagnosed, their first consideration is the fact that no one will ever love them. That is not true. Definitely not true. If someone really loves you, they’ll accept you 100%. 

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RNY18

Finding love is hard enough without the added burden of a communicable virus. This is what has made me so depressed about it.

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WilsoInAus
1 hour ago, RNY18 said:

Finding love is hard enough without the added burden of a communicable virus. This is what has made me so depressed about it.

But actually, it makes finding love a little easier as you are free to date those awesome chicks with cold sores! That’s most of the cute ones!

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