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I am grateful to find this message board. I'm 22 and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a little over a year. He was my first partner and has been my only partner. He is 27 and has had a few partners in the past, but said he is free of diseases. We started being intimate about three months ago, but did not use protection for oral sex. Two weeks ago I started feeling different. It started with an ache in my shoulders that eventually spread to most of my body. I felt tired all the time. Then the itching started in my genital area. I haven't noticed any blisters exactly, but I had an area that was sore even just to have clothing against it. The skin down there got very dry and turned brown before flaking off. The skin now cracks and sometimes bleeds. I have never experienced anything like this and am not sure who to turn to. The only relief I have found is taking showers. Eventually I suspected that it might be std related, so I went to a clinic to be tested, only to find that the clinic in my area does not test for herpes. I guess I'm hoping someone out there could give their opinion. I'm pretty sure it is what I have, but am not sure how or where to go to get tested, or if I should even bother as I've been reading that there is no cure. I haven't talked to my boyfriend about it. I am worried that he will get angry and don't even know how to bring it up. I'm sad to think that I may have gotten something like this from him, and scared because I feel like there is no one I can talk to. I just needed to share, and if anyone has suggestions for ways to stop the itch, please share. I've tried oatmeal baths, rubbing alcohol, and zinc ointment.


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    • Hockeyawesome1
      What’s Excision?
    • Hockeyawesome1
      Get some garlic concentrate pills 1000mg. I take one a day, eat whatever I want and stay symptom free. 
    • Isab
      I understand how you feel. My boyfriend had always been cautious of physically being with me before, but now I’m afraid that he’ll never want to take that step. Ive accepted the fact that it’s something I’ll have to live with, but what still scares me is the impact that my herpes will have on people around me- especially sexual partners. I kissed him before I knew that I was carrying the virus (but I know for sure that I had it at the time) I’m scared to tell him that he might have it too because of me! I’m just trying to say that i understand your worry of what impact this will have in your relationship.
    • Hockeyawesome1
      Oh ok. If a cure does come along sometime in my life that would be awesome! Especially for the younger generations that will never have to worry about HSV. I’m still pretty young (22) and got a lot of my life left to do great things regardless if a cure ever comes 
    • Isab
      I just got my diagnosis. My lips have been suffering from herpes for at least three years now, but because I have so many allergies and sensitive skin I always thought that it was an allergic reaction and dismissed the idea of herpes. How am I supposed to live a normal life now knowing that I can’t ever kiss my boyfriend without making him carry this burden. I was ashamed before to have my lips look swollen and pustulating in public, but now that I know it’s herpes I can’t help but hide more. This makes me feel like even more of an outcast, especially since I’ve been suffering with other skin problems like huge face cysts and very bad acne for years. What do I do? What am I even supposed to think or feel at a moment like this? 

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