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If you were a person who does not have genital herpes,
would you make every sex-partner do an herpes-test before you have sex with him?

(or even if you do have genital herpes - because there is hsv1 and hsv2)



This would basically at least mean no one night stands, no sex on first date.

You would definately be weird asking for a herpes test before sex. Even asking for std-tests before sex is weird. 

Social norm is using condoms for intercourse (and oral without condom). 
Social norm is now even so that sex comes before relationship. (Meaning when you had sex you probably don't know for sure if you are in a relationship yet, unlike some decades ago)
(i am in western europe)




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Shit i fucking wish I would have been smart enough to ask the man I was seeing to go in with me for us to get tested. Fuck I wish I was that smart. Fuck one night stands. Fuck sex on the first date. I wish I was smart enough to go in with a partner and get tested together. I wish I was smarter about sex period. 

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