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mylifesuks

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mylifesuks

i was told by the doctor two months ago that i indeed have herpes, and i feel so horrible about it. I have talked to my fiancee and natuarally his is being so supportive and does not blame me for this( my ex actually gave it to me which he had been cheating and had cuts but told me it was from his pants, damn i am such an idiot ) It just makes feel like i'm a whore, even though i know that i'm not, but my brain is not cooperating with my my heart. i joined this group cuz my doctor is a idiot about herpes. i know nothing and the medications make me horribly sick to the point that i throwup all day so now i take nothing, i have not had a outbreak since the first one but i am always itching and my stomach is always bloated and i'm constantly tired.

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MsLucy

Mylifesuks... I hope that's not truly how you feel. Life is way too important to let something like herpes ruin it for you.

You say you have a fiance who's been supportive and non-judgemental. That tells me that he still sees you as the wonderful, loveable person you were before H entered your life. He wants to be with you for the rest of his life, laugh with you, cry with you, make love to you, raise a family, perhaps, and grow old next to you. You must be pretty special. Perhaps you should try to see yourself through his eyes.

The fact that you contracted herpes doesn't make you stupid, whorish, or any less of a person than you were before. It's a virus, and viruses are contagious. If you'd caught a cold from your ex, would you be beating yourself up over it? I doubt it.

You trusted someone you cared about. There's no shame in that. I trust the people I care about. How could I care about them if I don't feel they're trustworthy? But sometimes people (like your ex) don't live up to our expectations. That's not your fault, so stop blaming yourself for not expecting to be cheated on and put at risk.

What's done is done, and can't be undone. All that's left is to keep moving forward. You have what could be a wonderful life ahead of you, with someone who must love you very much. Embrace it, and don't let this stupid virus steal even one more moment of happiness from you.

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mylifesuks

thankyou for responding and yes sometimes i do feel down about my life but after i wrote this today, it made me feel better, i never really told anyone exactly how i feel about this condition until today and i guess it was eating me alive, thank god i found this group cuz reading other people post had me thinking that i am not the only one dealing with this, it is so refreshing that i am not alone which is how i felt, i have support from my partner but he does not understand fully what i am going thru and is constantly telling me that i am still the same person. Now i wish that i can stop being tired, that part really sucks.

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