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esperanza25

Told him and ob free months later he says he's got something on his lip

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esperanza25

So I told my boyfriend months ago that I have HSV2 and he was fine with

it and since I never have OB's we never use condoms. He's fully aware of the consequences but we NEVER have talking about H since I told him. It's been a non touch subject. I thought everything was great, no OB's, him neither and the sex is great. We just recently started oral sex, which he only went down on me 2-3 times. I have not had an OB since the stress of haveing to tell him. But now he calls me tonight and tells me he has something on his lip, and of course I say, oh it's because of the cold, or chapped lips, and he's like, "no, i think it's something else" I freaked out inside! He couldn't really tell, but as soon as I got off the phone I balled my eyes out. I'm really upset and I have plans with him tomorrow and I don't even want to see him. I rather die than confront this subject again. I can't handle it. We are always talking about marriage and we love eachother soooo much, but as soon as he said that I wanted to hang up and never talk to him again(which wouldn't of lasted more than an hour) I love him but I can't face this. I don't understand, I don't have ob's :( Now I want to make an excuse not to see him tomorrow. how will our sex life ever be the same? OMG please help me I am freaking out :( :(:(

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bristolgal

You say you love this guy that much that you have talked about marrige, yet you can't talk with each other about a cold sore? Sounds like there are bigger issues than him having chapped lips, you need to work on his acceptance if it turns out he hasnt got it.

And if he has got it? Then what? You were both aware of the consequences.

You say you havn't had an ob for months. He could have caught it through asyptomatic shedding (if you wasn't aware of that already then look it up!).

Also, I might be wrong here, but on another support site it is going around that you cannot catch hsv 2 orally? Which, if it is the case, means that he did not catch hsv off you (unless you have hsv-1 genitally?)

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alwall0828

I have to agree CALM DOWN. I was a little freaked when I thought my bf might of gotten it down there. But it wasn't the case. But it comes down to the you were both aware of everything. So if he does OH WELL. Life will go on. If you love and care for each other enough to talk about marriage then this should be nothing.

Let him know you are sorry if he does but just don't kiss him till it goes away.

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ArizonaLove

I think your sex life may now be better

You two have already reached a great understanding of each other. Having HSV2 isnt an easy thing physically nor emotionally. He knew what he was risking, and oral puts you in a higher risk- you have a high chance with just normal sex, and then adding oral just increases your already high chance. He will need you to be there for him, like you needed whoever you told at the begining. If anything, this may put you on a higher level of connectedness (i know its not a word). Somethings happen for a reason, even tho they seem bad at the time. Me for instance, had I not got HSV I would still be sleeping around with whoever amounted up in bed, waking up drunk at random apartments.

So just remember, you've already overcome the obstical, he knew what he was risking, and now he'll need your support. If you intended on marriage, it would most likely have happened at some point.

Good luck!

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