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Shoegirl

After posting something on one of these sites about having genital herpes, I received a response from a guy that was meant to be encouraging; however, he mentioned that there are special dating sites designed for people who have HSV. I know he intended to make me feel that I was not alone, but this mention of a particular site for those w/ herpes made me feel as though I have some "abnormal disease" which will not allow me to date "normal" people...and that I will have to date someone who is going through the same thing I am as no one who is STD-free would want to date me. I realize he didn't mean to make me feel hopeless and depressed, but that's how I took his post. I don't want to feel like I am any different than any other 26-yr-old girl out there. Does anyone understand my way of thinking here?

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Shayna

I really think he did mean well. Many people feel the hsv positive dating sites are a great option because then they never have to have "the talk"....it's a given.

As far as you feeling as though you have an abnormal disease, well, there's no skating around the fact that you now have a sexually transmitable virus. That certainly doesn't mean you can't date someone std free. However it does mean you must disclose your hsv status before becoming sexual with someone you date.

I have a feeling there are many other 26 year old girls out there with herpes...guys too!

If you are newly diagnosed, don't worry, you are going to be fine! try to focus on taking good care of yourself and enjoying life..

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