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One partner has it, the other doesn't

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Just wondering if anyone out here does not have herpes but their partner does and how it is going for you(especially if you are a girl and your male partner has it) HOw long have you been together? What precautions do you take? Does your partner have a lot of obs? Or can anyone share their story of not having herpes and then getting it from your partner and what that has been like? Thanks

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I have been 5 - 6 weeks with a partner. He does not have it. I do. I have had 3 OB since then. Very tough and frustrating for me. And him. I told him about it early on. And he made his decision about it.

So far, no problem. I am always holding my breath. I am worried. Because it will be a betrayal of some sort if he catches it. It will be my fault, of course. And this puts me into wondering if I should be in the relationship or not.

Its tough.

The last boyfriend I had I was with for 3 years. We both have it, so it was never an issue.

being with someone who does not have it is an entirely different issue. (though he says he was with another girl who had it for 3 years and he never got it then either).

Its a day by day thing.

But I would suggest that both partners study up on it and make sure that they are both doing whatever they can to make sure to prevent it.

I hope this helps some.

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