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20 y/o male seeking advise on how to deal with herpes. 

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SeanHanson
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Hi everyone,¬†ūüėá

 

For about a year ago I was diagnosed with genital herpes which since then has had an enormously negative impact on my mental health. I have spent so much time thinking and worrying about it that I eventually went to see a psychiatrist and she advised me to make a post in a herpes forum, so now I want to give it a shot.

 

In the past I used to love to go out and meet girls, but after the diagnosis my self esteem has been so low that I barely have the guts to do anything and sometimes I even have trouble just speaking to girls I might could have been interested in. I guess I feel kinda alone about it and because of the herpes it's now been such a long while ago since I've been dating and that's something I really miss. In addition to this, I spend way too much time and energy thinking about the reaction from a potential partner. I suppose the fear of rejection is so big that I've chosen just to keep it to myself. Also, I don't really have any friends with whom I feel comfortable enough talking about this to.

 


Even though I realize that it's far from the end of the world, I still have huge trouble accepting the diagnosis and the way it affects my life. Therefore, I want to ask if anyone has any tips or something like that to deal with a diagnosis. I think the mental side of it is far worse than the actual symptoms. 

Does it get easier to live with as life goes on?

 

I truly appreciate any answers or advice from you guys. Also if you want to share your experiences or stories that would be more than welcome. 

 

Thank you all so much in advance¬†‚̧ԳŹ

 

 

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G77

Hi

I'm also at a year since diagnosis and mentally I'm in a different space to you. I don't let it bother me now but at the beginning I was devastated. This forum helped me massively come to terms with it. You can't change the fact that you have it so you have a choice either to live feeling like crap or just decide to live your life as before only taking a few extra precautions. I'd not had an ob in 8 months but I'm currently going through one and this time around I'm like  theres nothing to worry about, it will be gone in a few days. Whereas 8 months ago I was saying.. why me! It's all about how you think about it and I always say it's just a skin condition! 

I've not dated anyone since diagnosis but that is mainly because I don't have time and I was pretty much single for years before I got it anyway. I know telling people will be hard and it's something I do dread if the day ever comes, but the right person will stick by you anyway. As for meaningless sex...it's overrated anyway! Sex is much better with a good connection and mutual respect and from my many years of experience, more fun! 

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SeanHanson

Wow, that sure is an inspiring view you have. Thank you for your answer, it means a lot! Even though I am far from your inspirational mental state it's definitely something I wanna work on in the future. I guess you're right about the sex, too. I hope to find that some day. Thank again! 

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