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I havent had to tell anyone before the fact yet.. I only had to tell those who were at risk when I first found out I had HSV. It's been two years and I just now started dating again. My life kinda got put on the back burner. Well I told my best friend that I used to sleep with, but more so as a support thing than the hey guess what type thing... all though it's good he knows.

I recently started kinda dating a friend of mine. We've known each other for years but never really hung out til lately. He's a very sexual person, and I was to before the fact. We generally watch movies and cuddle, and then I stayed there last night for the first time. I could definatly tell he wanted to go a little bit further but didn't try... I didn't give him any sign of it being okay to do so, if that makes sence. I kinda pretend to not notice how hard he was. (it was kinda hard tho, lol)

To me were not really a couple. All we really seem to do is watch movies and cuddle... Havent talked about the "us" all though its apparent that we both like each other. Im not sure what his opinion is....

Which normally isn't a big deal, but I met this guy who lives further away but has HSV too... and boy do I miss sex.

I like the idea of the HSV guy... he already knows, no awkwardness with that, but I havent met met him yet, cheesy huh? but I really like Cory but at the same time I haven't the slightest idea how to tell him, or how he'll react to being told. I don't think he'll flip out and be an ass about it, but I'm not so sure he'll still like me after telling him. Its only been a couple weeks. I thought I would be able to go a few months before having to try and tell anyone.

So... help?!?

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If you're considering having sex with the father away guys just because he has HSV, that's kind of silly, IMO. Would you have normally met up with a guy just for sex because he drank the same type of drink you did? Or because his mom's name was the same as yours? I understand how hard it is to tell and the appeal of someone you don't have to tell, but keep in mind that if you "settle" for this far-away guy, you're running the risk of not only catching something else but also of ruining what you might have with your friend.

As for your friend, if he doesn't understand why you want to take it slowly, he might not be worth it. You haven't discussed your "status" yet, but maybe you should. Before he actually puts moves on you, maybe you should bring something up - explain that while you like him and would like to see where it goes, you're not up for a fast physical relationship. If he handles that well, you'd have to determine if it's worth it to find physical comfort elsewhere. If he doesn't handle that well, he might not handle your HSV status well, and at least you knew.

Good luck!

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