Advise please on potential herpes

[UKandNZ]

Firstly thanks to those people who have setup and maintain this forum.

My issue. Seven weeks ago in an act of stupidity I agreed to a happy ending after a massage. It was obvious this was a regular service. After the massage I had a shower and also washed by penis with hand sanitiser (which I washed off with normal soap fairly quickly). A couple days afterwards I felt some mild discomfort / something different in my penis. There was no visual signs. After a couple weeks I had a pain in the tip of my penis, at its worst it radiated down the shaft. I have had std checks and bacterial tests several time - all negative. I have had a herpes blood test and also negative. The pain went away but returned a couple weeks later. I would best describe it as a sharp pain, somewhat like a burning pain. My testicles have also felt “heavy” and a couple days where they had somewhat sharper pain. No other symptoms and no visual sores. Although i have thought the tip of my penis (meats) looked a little different but that might be imagination. I have also had a ultrasound of my prostate, liver, bladder and then testicles ( I found a lump above a testicle that turned out to be not an issue). Needless to say the stress levels are off the charts.

i guess the question is (a) can herpes be transmitted via a Hand job by a fully clothed person (who would be very likely to have herpes) (b) do the symptoms sound like those associated with herpes (c) if not herpes then what?

any advice greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance.

PS I now have a new found appreciation of the stress this type of situation creates. I have been to the blackest places trying to see how I could every tell me wife and even thinking of terrible alternatives to telling her.

 

Edited July 12, 2019 by UKandNZ
Added detail

[WilsoInAus]

Hey @UKandNZ and welcome to the website.

Onto your questions:

A handjob is a safe activity with minimal chance of any issues emerging at all beyond abrasions, scratches etc.

Herpes is typically not present on the hands, oral and genital regions dominate infections. Even if someone does have a hand infection, it tends not to shed the virus.

Your symptoms do not align with herpes. Note for example the testicles are not on the same nerve ganglion as that infected with genital herpes.

This may be stress related to your pelvic floor muscles that can cause a variety of feelings including stings. Let go the tension and there’s a reasonable chance of returning to normal.

 

[UKandNZ]

Hi WilsoInAus, thank you for the prompt detailed reply. It’s a chicken and egg game maybe. If I stop stressing the issue might resolve, but I cannot stop stressing until the issue resolves. Arrgggg. No doubt I am not alone in this endless loop of stress.

your comments do help greatly and I thank you for them. I will endeavour to update this thread on my progress. Hopefully it will be of help to others in a similar situation.

i think at 13 weeks another blood test might help the stress monster sod off. ( god forbid it’s positive and the stress monster goes into orbit ). 

[WilsoInAus]

@UKandNZ I’ll put a lazy fiver on you not needing the 13 week test. Within a few weeks your mind will win the battle over fear and guilt, just a little time is probably all you need.

[UKandNZ]

Ok. For the benefit of others and to provide feedback. I had another blood test and both type 1 and 2 came back negative.

It would seem that the most likely cause is stress / guilt. I guess I can pursue other possible infections but with not visual symptoms i am leaning toward pelvic floor muscles being the culprit.

I hope this helps others who might be in a similar situation and to try and not jump to what they perceive to be the worst case scenario.

Cheers

[UKandNZ]

Ok. Further update. Visited a sexual health specialist. Who described the risk of infection as Zilch. He did a swap test but not surprisingly given there were no visual signs it came back negative. I was fine for a couple of weeks afterwards. BUT symptoms are back. Firstly, pain in the perineum - felt like I was sitting on a tennis ball. Also a bit of an itchy rectum but that might be an upset stomach .Then that went away and now pain the penis head - best described as a dull ache. Did another Herpes IGG blood test which was negative again. 

Does anyone have accurate statistics on the IGG blood tests done in Australia? What is the liklyhood of a false negative at 15 weeks.

No visual symptoms. 

Stress levels through the roof again. Doing yoga to try and help.

[WilsoInAus]

Hey @UKandNZ you can rest assured you do not have genital herpes. You have:

- essentially a zero risk exposure in a hand job

- symptoms that don’t align

- negative bloods at 15 weeks where 99% of negatives for HSV-2 are true negatives.

All ok on the herpes front mate! 

[UKandNZ]

Cheers. My logical brain agrees but without symptoms not going away the stupid part of the brain gains control. Might see a physiologist next. Again thanks.