Thoughts about suicide...

[AG9]

I’m a young woman newly diagnosed with HSV-2. This is something I never thought could happen to me as I’ve had very few sexual partners and have taken precautions to avoid these things. On a whim I decided to rebound after going through my first break up which was already the hardest thing for me. My self-esteem was already in the trash, I was going in and out of depression, and this diagnosis has made everything worse. I am at the lowest of the low. I know to some it may sound stupid but I’m contemplating suicide. I feel like I can’t reach out to anyone around me due to the negative stigma and shame associated with herpes, I was raised in an extremely conservative and culturally strict environment so speaking out is almost impossible. I don’t know what to do. I used to be an outgoing and confident person. I don’t know if I’ll ever get back to that place. 

[Zach92]

Hey.. Life is more than just sex. Though it is fun and important don't let this define you. Also they're making great strides in cures so hope is out there. Plus it is a manageable disease. 

[percival112]

So sorry you are feeling this way @JP9. Have a look at http://www.crisisservicescanada.ca/ - you can call, chat or text with people who you can unburden with and probably be more sensitive to the cultural nuances you are referring to.

Edited July 14, 2019 by percival112

[Newone2]

I know how you feel. Hopes for a cure keep me holding on. This shit really needs to be cured already. It’s ridiculous that it’s 2019 and this is still happening to people. For fucks sake. Someone should give trump herpes and watch how fast we get a cure.

[The]

6 minutes ago, JP9 said:

I’m a young woman newly diagnosed with HSV-2. This is something I never thought could happen to me as I’ve had very few sexual partners and have taken precautions to avoid these things. On a whim I decided to rebound after going through my first break up which was already the hardest thing for me. My self-esteem was already in the trash, I was going in and out of depression, and this diagnosis has made everything worse. I am at the lowest of the low. I know to some it may sound stupid but I’m contemplating suicide. I feel like I can’t reach out to anyone around me due to the negative stigma and shame associated with herpes, I was raised in an extremely conservative and culturally strict environment so speaking out is almost impossible. I don’t know what to do. I used to be an outgoing and confident person. I don’t know if I’ll ever get back to that place. 

My story is eerily similar to yours, nearly identical. Reserved, strict upbringing and all. 

Whenever things get really hard just remind yourself one thing... you're not alone. People from all walks of life end up in this situation. Granted the stigma forces us to suffer in secrecy even around the ones we know and love, you've got to remember its not just you. Someone out there just like you going through the same thing you are psychologically and is facing similar challenges. 

Try to find your local HSV support group, they exist a nearly every location. They also have confidential HSV  facebook groups and organizations that organize events where you can meet lots people with your condition and connect with them. THERES ALWAYS HELP. dont forget that.

In most, the symptoms get milder and milder as time goes on. You will start feeling healthy more often which allows you to can focus on the things you love and being the best you can be. It could have been WAY worse, you could have ended up with something more serious that could have legitimately compromised your health BIG time.  Don't let some annoying tingly crap finish you off, our ancestors went through way too much to get us here.

You're young. There will likely be a prophylactic vaccine or functional cure in the future, theres quite a bit in the medical pipelines. It will be here before you know it. hang tough. In the meantime find someone with your condition who you can relate to, it helps.