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I was diagnosed early this year.My primary outbreak started on December 30th.Thats when i had flu like symptoms. I first had sores on January 1st.My question im trying to find the answer for is which person i contracted herpes from.

I had sex with 3 different women in december. First woman was on December 13th at night,we had unprotected vaginal sex.Second woman was on december 14th or 15th and we had unprotected sex as well.I did sleep with woman number 2 also in november 22nd 1 time.The the third woman i had sex with on december 22th -december 30th.We also had sex when i had lesions on my penis january 1st.This happened before i went to the bathroom to spot it.The strange thing is she didnt get sick,so can i safely assume woman number 3 was the woman i contracted herpes from?We had unprotected sex when i had visible sores.And she hasnt told me she had an outbreak or anything yet.

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Hey @alextheman there is little doubt here, contestant number 3 is the source!

What testing did you obtain? Although it is near certain she is source, it would be appropriate for you to share your diagnosis with her to enable her test to be sure and be sure you are in a concordant relationship.

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I went to a local planned parenthood. im assuming its the igg test.Didnt give me a number just that i was positive with hsv type 2. It pretty much nails it that she was the source when she didnt get sick after we had sex after i had an outbreak.And i got sick 1 week after we had sex.

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3 minutes ago, alextheman said:

I went to a local planned parenthood. im assuming its the igg test.Didnt give me a number just that i was positive with hsv type 2. It pretty much nails it that she was the source when she didnt get sick after we had sex after i had an outbreak.And i got sick 1 week after we had sex.

Wait a moment... Exactly what date did you have this blood test? Or was it a swab of your sores? You must get the result to be sure.

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6 minutes ago, WilsoInAus said:

Wait a moment... Exactly what date did you have this blood test? Or was it a swab of your sores? You must get the result to be sure.

In may this year.It was a blood test.May 10th was my test.

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In may this year.It was a blood test.

So long as you are sure this was the first outbreak on 1 Jan that consisted of multiple sores, then yes it is highly likely it was 3.

I'll suggest to you, given we are now some time post the infection, there is no looking back. If things are over with her then they're over.

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We are together in a relationship,we just are not having sex.Im taking acyclovir when i feel an outbreak is coming.after the first outbreak i didnt have another outbreak until 2months after.Now i have them every month or twice a month. I was just worried about spreading it to her.And it feels when i do finally bring it up i will be blamed.

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It very well could of been the 3 rd person, really no way to tell unless you tested around the time of outbreak and was negative. Then had a positive test 4 months later. You may of just had it all along and just noticed your first outbreak. I see you joined in 2012 so u must of had a scare at that time.

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14 hours ago, Tone123 said:

It very well could of been the 3 rd person, really no way to tell unless you tested around the time of outbreak and was negative. Then had a positive test 4 months later. You may of just had it all along and just noticed your first outbreak. I see you joined in 2012 so u must of had a scare at that time.

Yeah i joined early but also i did blood tests in 2012,2015,2017 and all were negative.I take std tests once or twice a year.Some times when i tell the doctor full panel they dont test for hsv.i really have to force them to test for it.

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