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Hi all,

i need some serious help here. I’m a 36 year old female who has oral since childhood and genital Hsv1 since prob about 20 years of age only diagnosed at 30.

Before the time I was diagnosed I gave birth to my daughter and was a young single mom for years. We did normal household activities without taking precautions because I was not aware I had genital HSV1 although I would get outbreaks of what I thought was folliculitis in my bikini line and down my thighs. I am terrified that I transmitted this to my daughter by either her sitting on my lap, taking a bath with me, sharing a washcloth.. etc

i have been silently dealing with this thought for years. When she was 8 years old she complained of vaginal itching, burning, poking pains and had one sore between her buttocks and her leg. I took her to the pediatrician immediately and explained my situation but they assured me that H does not present on a child with just one sore. 

Time passed and I became calm again. She would have the occasional “bug bite” that would send me into a panic, and then everything would be fine. 

Just this past May while she was stretching(she is a dancer) I noticed a pimple like lesion along her bikini line again. It went away before I could take her to the doctor- but every week I have been seeing small red bumps along her thighs that remind me of the bumps and outbreaks I get along my thighs. I am anxious to get a diagnosis and be able to help her but I also am trying not to overreact and give her a complex. 

She is the absolute light do my life, whole world and this will absolutely devastated me beyond words if I’ve spread this to her. Have there been any cases of transmission to children. Would she be showing more symptoms if she had it? Are there any support groups for parents like me? If I post pictures would anyone be willing to give input? I’m such a ball of anxiety right now. 

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@Bkoof50 it is exceptionally rare for herpes to pass to the genital region of a child through normal parent activity.

What you describe for both yourself and your daughter does appear to be folliculitis genitally.

How were you diagnosed with genital HSV-1? It would be exceptionally rare to have a HSV-1 outbreak away from the vagina.

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8 hours ago, Bkoof50 said:

A swab test for me genitally 

I know how you feel, where I get anxiety from when my small children grab my cups and touch my lips. Everything should be ok. Some doctors argue, that HSV 1 in the genitals shed so rarely that you may not have to disclose to potential partners so it is unlikely that your daughter has been infected by you. Sometimes, I tell myself, If I don't have sex with someone, then I won't infect anyone else to relieve anxiety that I get at times. Good luck. 

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