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I can’t sleep right now but i can’t help but feel alone in this sometimes. I usually do okay for the most part but emotionally this really fucks with me every once in awhile  :(

i know it is still new and a huge adjustment period. Like anything, it takes time. Sigh. Sometimes i really still can’t believe it. I have grown from it and learned these last few months.. i just hate the lonely feelings i get that decide to pop up randomly. 

I still worry that when i am ready to date, this makes things so much harder smh. 

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There will be no need to be lonely @meg2 many mature guys will accept you for who you are. They will treat your herpes status as irrelevant.

You need your IgG test results though to understand what types you have.

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@meg2 I understand how you feel. I remember for a few months after my diagnosis it would randomly weigh on me that I have it and I would be overwhelmed with sadness and disbelief. It was like a huge weight on my chest and I felt empty.. I’ve only had it for 6 months now and I haven’t had a bad day like that in a long time.. it’s good that you are able to acknowledge that it gets better with time, because it really really does... Personally, I found someone who accepted me at my first attempt at dating, which basically made me stop worrying about it.. I think it also made it much easier when I started opening up and talking about it to my close ones.. I realized no one thought any differently of me and no one thought it was a big deal. This gave me the reassurance I needed to realize I am no different or any less of a person than I was before

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