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Hi Everyone, 

I am looking for an advice on how to manage herpes (hsv 2) in a relationship where one is positive and the other negative. anyone is experiencing this or any advice would be appreciated 

Thank you 

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Hey @Franky26 did your wife get a confirmation test such as an ELISA with values or Westernblot.

In terms of the relationship, you ignore HSV. Let your wife control those times when she can't have sex owing to a suspected outbreak. Otherwise no need to worry about it or talk about it etc.

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"..In terms of the relationship, you ignore HSV. Let your wife control those times when she can't have sex owing to a suspected outbreak. Otherwise no need to worry about it or talk about it etc..."

So, according to you , no need to be concerned about spreading the virus to a partner during infectious  

times of viral shedding ?

Explain.

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Wilson, 

I dont know the values of heart but it dosnt matter anymore she had gone through 5 tests and all positive, it is putting a huge strain on us, we cant go through testing anymore. 

 

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2 hours ago, Franky26 said:

Wilson, 

I dont know the values of heart but it dosnt matter anymore she had gone through 5 tests and all positive, it is putting a huge strain on us, we cant go through testing anymore. 

 

If you didn’t get values then you’re having the wrong test. Did you try to seek a Westernblot?

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12 minutes ago, Franky26 said:

Wilson, I have a previous Igg numbers 

Hsv1  18.7

Hsv2  8.32

 

I take it 1.1 is positive? If so that’s a firm positive and no further testing is required.

It is what it is and readily managed by couples in your position.

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